Thursday, 28 May 2009

Change from Inside

Today I want to talk to you about change.

Before you can change your life and what's in it you need to change what's inside you. It's a fact that if you say something like "I hate my life and this is not what I want!" then you're just focusing on what's wrong and you'll get more of that again.

In order to make positive changes in your physical world you need to think differently and feel differently. Ever notice that when you feel good everything seems to go well for you?

The opposite is true when you feel bad and indulge your negative side everything seems to get worse...

I've tried changing where I live and moved to a different country on more than one occasion and my life did change but guess what? My mind went with me and my problems were still there. Given time if you want to chase your dreams and live a better and happier life start by changing inside.

How do you do this?

First you should look at yourself, your thoughts and what you say because this shows what is going on inside you. Is your attitude helping you or holding you back?

Find some time to quieten down and get peaceful. Listen to some gentle music. Ask yourself what you want and begin to see and experience it in your mind.

Read positive books and fill your brain will positive stuff.

Talk to yourself in a positive way. This is called self talk and it will help you to become happier.

Focus on what's good in your life and be thankful.

keep a daily journal of your successes and things that made you happy.

Imagine a car with a poor engine, not serviced and not working properly. It struggles uphill coughing and spluttering and sometimes stops. It lets you down when you need it most.

Your mind is your engine and you cannot hope to be successful or happy without a mind that is functioning correctly and supporting you in facing every challenge that lies in front of you.

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Thursday, 21 May 2009

Bad Self Image

I've decided to answer a selection of emails and post them here so that you can benefit from the questions my visitors send me.

Here's an email I just received:

"I think the problem with me is that I have bad self image to the point where if I dont think I look good I wont be confident, and I'm just not happy with how I look so it therefore equals to me not being happy with who I am. I'm not an obviously vain person but its beginning to click with me that my self esteem is linked to my looks.Do I have to take more specific action if the problem is self image?

I have done this course and read Mckennas book instant confidence but it doesn't seem to make me feel better."

My answer:

Well, it's a common problem especially with women. You see images of beautiful, slim models on TV and you feel ugly or fat because you don't think you compare. Perhaps you think you need to lose weight or you dont think you are attractive. Whatever the problem is it is common now.

It is difficult to get over this and needs you to get confidence step by step. It also needs a different way of thinking. You need to start focusing on your good points and try to accept yourself as you are. What are you good at? Who likes you and why? Is anybody attracted to you and if so what do they like about you?

Make a list of all your good points and any compliments people have given you write them down. This will help you when you feel bad.

Of course, if you do have a physical problem then get help.

If your problem is one of self image then tell a friend and maybe they can help. Make yourself feel more confident by trying a new hairstyle or new clothes. If it makes you feel more confident then do it. Maybe you will get a bit more attention from those you are trying to attract and this will boost your confidence...

Yes, action is needed to improve self image!

If you can, this is not easy, try to focus on other things apart from appearance and looks. Most people find personality, friendliness and humour very attractive and at work you will be judged by what you do rather than what you look like.

I will not deny that looks are an advantage and play a part, but much less than you believe...

You are unique, start today by showing the world just how unique you are!

Good luck building your self esteem...

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Friday, 8 May 2009

Procrastination - a real enemy!

Here's an email I received this week from a visitor to

"I am serious about building my self-esteem but I have some insecurities about myself. This led to me procastinating every single day and I hate it."

I have often thought that procrastination is connected with low self esteem. If you are feeling down think about how much you are procrastinating...

The problem is that if you know in your heart that you are not taking action that you should you will feel worse and your self esteem will drop like a stone. In the question we can see how it feels to someone who procrastinates. They begin to hate this and soon they turn this against themselves...

So if you need to boost your self esteem then it follows that you need to take action!

Action that will free you...

Positive action!

"If you can overcome procrastination and take action you will immediately start feeling good about yourself because you have started doing something to reach a goal. If you suffer from low self esteem or lack of confidence, procrastination will make things worse because inside you will know that you are paralyzed..."

(the above is an excerpt from "Self Esteem Secrets" Chapter Eleven all about procrastination)

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"Before you can take any action you have to make a decision and take steps towards achieving your goals and this first step will lead to an increase in your self-esteem and confidence. Each step you take will bring you closer to your goal and therefore will increase your confidence and self esteem, so don’t stop..."

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Wednesday, 6 May 2009

Books and E-books - what's the difference?

What is the difference between an e-book and a book?

Do you have any thoughts on this? Is one better than another?

Some visitors have asked me if I have a printed book version of my e-book "Self Esteem Secrets" and some only want to order it if I have a book version...


Maybe a good old fashioned book has more prestige?

So, here's what I'm doing this week:

I'm preparing my e-book so that I can convert it into a printed book and become an author, something I've dreamed about all my life!

After I've done this I plan to sell it on Amazon and Barnes and Noble for starters...

Let me know what you think about this idea and any thoughts you have about books and e-books...