Friday, 15 June 2012

What not to say to someone who is depressed

Depression is quite a serious business and those who haven't suffered can only imagine what the sufferer goes through.  If you have been reading my blog you will have seen that I believe there are many many things you can do to help yourself but one thing that really does not help is listening, even for a second, to the stupid comments that others make when they learn that you are depressed.

If you've ever been depressed you know what it feels like.  The stupid sentences that people give you that shows they don't understand what it means to be depressed and they don't realize the seriousness of it. 

I just read a really really interesting article and I wanted to share it with you.  It talks about all these kind of things that make you mad if you're depressed.  It just shows that others don't understand at all and what's more they are not prepared to even try.

The article is called 11 things you should never say to someone with depression.

Please let me know what you think about the article and leave your comments below. 

Thursday, 31 May 2012

Do this one thing to find energy, clarity and refresh your mind

Sometimes life just gets too much, don't you agree? Do you ever feel that you can't make clear decisions because your brain is tired and confused?

You need to take care of yourself when life challenges you. One thing I always find helpful is the power of silence.

I experienced it only a few times but it is really something that makes a big difference.

It is often difficult to find a quiet place - if you are lucky enough to live near an open space such as a forest or mountain or the countryside away from the city then take advantage of the silence. Sometimes we need to shut our brains down, breath gently and stop thinking. Noise prevents you from doing this.

So go somewhere silent. Not just quiet, but silent if you can. The silence will rest you. Certain sounds in nature are also restful so birds or water are not a problem but if you can find absolute silence it will work its magic on you. Close your eyes and stop thinking, relax for a while and rest.

If you do this it will bring you energy and clarity and help you become stronger.

Look after yourself and refresh your mind and this will help you in your life.

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Tuesday, 29 May 2012

What is Self esteem exactly?

As part of running my various website about self esteem and depression I get many questions daily. It is amazing how I am able to help people from all over the world with just a few words in an email which I can write quickly. I really feel I am contributing and doing something positive.

Anyway, here's today's question:

"What is self esteem really?"

And here is my brief answer, please add your answer below in the comments section, love to hear how you would define self esteem.

Self esteem is:

"the value you put on yourself as a person. It is how you see yourself, do you have a lot of positive ideas about who you are and what you can offer to the world or do you think of yourself negatively? Low self esteem is when you don't like who you are and think you are worthless or a failure so high self esteem would be believing the opposite and feeling confident about YOU."

You can also check the following page for more about the meaning and importance of self esteem:

Have a great day!

Saturday, 12 May 2012

A Fantastic Self Improvement Tool...

The power inside is just amazing, did you realize that?

Of all the tools for self improvement I've checked out over the years and recommended I keep coming back to one of the most powerful of all. It uses the power of your subconscious mind to help you to heal yourself.

Think of any problem or challenge you face, it might be something that scares you or something you've been avoiding. It might be something you've wanted to overcome for years but haven't managed it yet. This is a technique that works because you have the ability to heal yourself and change the way you think.

What is this self improvement tool?

It's called self hypnosis. Don't be put off by hypnosis. What it does is relaxes you and your subconscious receives messages that will help you confront your problems in a more positive and successful way.

You can read more about this powerful resource and get a free course which will teach you how to use this. Just visit my page about self hypnosis audio and learn why this is so successful.

Saturday, 21 April 2012

Do this and take action to change your life

We often here these days about the difficulties of modern life and how we don' have time to stop and think about where we are going.

Does this sound like you?

When a company has a problem, a group of people sit down and reflect on what is happening and a discussion of tactics follows. What is the best course of action?

Do you sometimes find yourself lost and not knowing what to do or what has gone wrong? Do you wonder what action to take?

You need to take some time out. Perhaps a short break away from the stresses of work or study to reflect.

If you spent one day a week when you sat down and gave yourself some time to think about where you are and where you are going, don't you think that would make a difference?

If you think life is passing you by, then stop a moment and relax. think about what you want and how to get it, even if it's just for five minutes each day.

Set aside some time today to ask yourself these questions:

"Where do you want to go in life?"
"How will you get there?"
"What steps can you take now to move closer to your wishes?"

I wish you luck and would like to know how you find this activity.

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Friday, 30 March 2012

An interesting excerise for you...

Today I want to give you a few exercises to do which will help improve your self esteem and mindset.

Let's get straight to it!

Get a pen and some paper:


First, write out all the limiting, negative beliefs you have about yourself.
Hint: start with I can't, I don't, I am too.., I don't have...etc. (You are really trying to get reasons why have low self esteem)

Second, write out compelling reasons why you must have more self esteem and self confidence. What would that mean to you? How would your life change? Try to get 100 reasons if you can.

Third, list 100 ways to boost your self esteem. What can you do to build your esteem and confidence?

Fourth, make a list of goals of things you want to achieve or steps you need to take and include deadlines to achieve them.

This exercise may take some time but it will be time well spent. It will help you by changing from a negative mindset focused on failure to a mindset determined to succeed.

If you find the above useful then you will certainly benefit from my e-book Self Esteem Secrets, or you can check out my website and find about how Life Coaching can help you.

Take care,
Karl Perera

Friday, 23 March 2012

Confront your Fear...

Last week I confronted an old enemy we all face...


I love adventurous sports and this winter I have been snowboarding six times. It is a bit scary. I can now, after three years, snowboard quite well but realized one thing is stopping me from progressing and that is my fear.

Last time out I fell a couple of times just trying to slow myself down. This week I pushed myself because I thought:

"Do I want to do this or not? Do I want to advance or stay the same level? "

I decided that if I do something I should push myself a bit each time and improve a little each time I go out.

I went for it and as my speed increased I pushed through the barrier of fear just a bit. OK, I took it in steps and didn't go crazy but I pushed myself.

Life is the same. We need to confront fear and push ourselves through more challenging and uncomfortable events. Ask yourself this:

"Am I going to do this with all my effort and push myself to do my best or am I going to half-do this?"

Personally, I think that half doing something is pointless. Either I push myself to do the best I can or I should forget it and not bother.

Remember, the world needs and wants you to do your best so push yourself and succeed!

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Saturday, 17 March 2012

What Motivates You?

I'd like you to ask yourself this question:

"What motivates you?"

It is difficult to answer such general questions but maybe you can answer that...If you can't, don't worry, try this:

1. Think about all the good things in your life (yes there are good things in everybody's life)
2. Ask yourself "Why is this important to me?"
3. Note down your answer
4. Keep asking why is that important to me?
5. Note down all your answers

The answers you have are the values you have.

Your values are important because they motivate you.

Your aim should be to live your life according to your values. If you are in conflict with these values depression or unhappiness can result.

Know what your values and motivators are and you will be stronger and more likely to achieve your goals.

I wish you happiness!

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Saturday, 10 March 2012

Do limiting beliefs prevent your success?

Do you sometimes find yourself trying to reach a goal or really wanting to achieve something but somehow no matter what you seem to do it doesn't happen?

There is one real obstacle that often works against you. Do you know what that is?


Life-transforming Hypnosis downloads that WILL inspire you.
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Your potential for happiness and success in this world is limited only by you. You set the limits. What you can achieve is limited by what you believe is possible.

But there are powerful obstacles which cause you to doubt yourself and which prevent you from having what you want...

Your limiting beliefs.

What limiting beliefs do you have?

Ask yourself what you believe about the following:

1. yourself
2. your relationships with others
3. what is possible for you in this life

By just listing these limiting beliefs and thinking about them you will have taken a giant step towards weakening them.

Next week we'll think about this a bit more, in the meantime I advise you to try one of these life-changing self hypnosis downloads:

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Friday, 2 March 2012

Are Your Beliefs Stopping You?

One of the most important factors behind your behaviour is the beliefs that you have.

How many limiting beliefs do you have that sabotage your progress and happiness?

Change these beliefs to more helpful ones and you start helping yourself rather than hurting yourself.

Here are three questions to answer and when you do you'll have a list of beliefs that can be positive and negative:

1. What do you believe about yourself?
2. What do you believe is possible for you?
3. What do you believe about other people's relationships with you?

In the next post I'll tell you what to do with the list of beliefs you have discovered.

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Saturday, 14 January 2012

How to think more positively

I know it's hard sometimes to think positively. I have a tip for
you today, I hope it helps you change the way you think.

I often find that when I have a real challenge in my life or a
major decision that I have to be careful to not let fear in and
stay positive. many ask me "how can I think positively?"

To answer this - start asking yourself the how and stop the why
not inside you.

Let me explain..When you want something or need to do something
challenging start asking yourself "How can I do that? How can I
change that?" rather than focusing on the why nots.

Why nots are the reasons why something is difficult or what you
see as obstacles. Change your focus to possibilities rather than
difficulties. Your whole outlook will change.

Remember in any situation and whatever you face in your life you
are not without hope, you do not start from zero. Before you tell
yourself that it is too difficult, go through the advantages you
have. The truth is that you have a lot, even though you may tell
yourself otherwise.

So my message to you this week is this - to start thinking
positively, start with the positives and then ask yourself how
you can build on them.

I wish you success,

Until next week,
Karl Perera

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Saturday, 7 January 2012

New Self esteem and Depression Articles from me

As my first post of the New Year thought I'd like to tell you about what I've been up to recently.

First, I have produced a number of new articles and pages about both depression and self esteem and I plan to write even more soon. Here are two new pages I've written on Squidoo:

Building your self esteem  - my lens is about exactly what is says how to build your self esteem and lots more including how to test your level of self esteem and confidence right now

Depression self help guide - again I think pretty self-explanatory. It's about how to help yourself overcome depression with some great ideas.

So if you'd like to improve your self esteem or if you suffer from depression, do yourself a favour and visit the above pages.

I also advise you to check out my articles on ezine articles where I am an expert author: topics include bipolar depression, depression tests and how to build self esteem and much more:

Depression and Self Esteem Articles