Depression is quite a serious business and those who haven't suffered can only imagine what the sufferer goes through. If you have been reading my blog you will have seen that I believe there are many many things you can do to help yourself but one thing that really does not help is listening, even for a second, to the stupid comments that others make when they learn that you are depressed.
If you've ever been depressed you know what it feels like. The stupid
sentences that people give you that shows they don't understand what it
means to be depressed and they don't realize the seriousness of it.
I just read a really really interesting article and I wanted to share it with you. It talks about all these kind of things that make you mad if you're depressed. It just shows that others don't understand at all and what's more they are not prepared to even try.
The article is called 11 things you should never say to someone with depression.
Please let me know what you think about the article and leave your comments below.
Nice article there !
ReplyDeleteI just wrote a comic account of how people start to get into depression.
Good job on your blog
Next year, and I'm glad you appreciate the article. How can I read your account? Sounds interesting I'd like to take a look and I'm sure other people with too
ReplyDeleteThe article '11 things you should never say to someone with depression' really resonated with me. As a person who suffered in my twenties and thirties, I have had a lot of those things said to me. The things that were said to me only made things worse. Thankfully, I have learned techniques and things that I can do to alleviate when I have a relapse. I know I will be ok now.
ReplyDeleteThanks for your comments FSmum I'm glad that you found the article helpful and I too am a fellow sufferer of depression. Like you I went through a lot of trouble in my twenties and thirties.
ReplyDeleteI do have a question for you-
I think it would be really here really helpful for my readers if you could expand on your comments above and let us know what techniques and things you do to alleviate depression when you have a relapse. I think this would really really help other people.
Superb write-up.
ReplyDeleteJust visit this write-up for beating the blues: http://poojasd7.hubpages.com/hub/How-to-beat-the-blues
Such a tough subject to address, thanks for doing so! I've been there with people trying to cheer me up with strange sayings, its not their fault but they do need to be informed. Love the post!
ReplyDelete-Drew Tracy
Great post! You're very right, listening to unproductive comments does not help in the least.
ReplyDeleteNice post!But I think there should be difference between people with different temperament, for example the sanguine and the melancholist have different perspective of "depression". So we couldn't generalize those 11 things, instead we should also look up for the temperament and culture. Different place different culture, that one is more suitable for american I guess.
ReplyDeleteInteresting article. I must say while it's true just saying that "other people are suffering worse" is a bad idea for depression advice, it is a good idea for insufferably pessimistic people.
ReplyDeleteThis advice, to remember there are others doing worse, is probably best used for those people who complain about minor hiccups and problems in their life while not being grateful for all the good they do have.
I don't know...just a thought.
I was amazed upon visiting here as the articles are all very informative.
ReplyDeleteMy congratulations to the people behind the success of this website.
You really rock guys! Keep up the good works!
http://happinessdirect.com
This is great post that I've read today. I think I'll be visiting here so often. 5 thumbs for this post!
ReplyDeleteI was amazed upon visiting here as the articles are all very informative.
ReplyDeleteMy congratulations to the people behind the success of this website.
You really rock guys! Keep up the good works!
Very Informative indeed. My Good good friend also has a great GREAT website for motivation and inspiration.
ReplyDeletehttps://inspwr.infusionsoft.com/go/breakthrough/a3627
Have a little read just to see if you might like it or enjoy it. I feel so warm for those who take time out of their lives to help others and find their inner confidence and real selves.
SIncerly,
Matthew
There are many things which people have to consider while saying anything to someone who is depressed. Like don't say anything which can heart him.
ReplyDeleteinspiration
Hello, It's very informative. I have dealth with depression for years and it also runs in the family. I do not take medication for mine. But I deal with it in other non-addictive ways. And I am looking for healthy and uplifting ways to get over lifes issues. Any additional advise is welcome.
ReplyDeletehttp://toimprovemylife.com
Been a while since you last wrote! I hope you write again soon. Will be subscribing in hopes of seeing new material. Let's connect!
ReplyDeleteSJ
iliketoshowernaked.blogspot.com
Hi Su,
DeleteI thought your website might be spam but upon visiting it I see it is a great collection of quotes which are very interesting...
Thanks!
So many comments on this page - wow! Very happy that you all liked my post so much.
ReplyDeleteHi Karl,
ReplyDeleteI left a comment here yesterday, but as I wasn't logged in, it disappeared :)
I found your blog while googling and I liked your posts. I have some friends who have been depressed for a while, and your post and the link that you've given in it, got me thinking. While I couldn't believe that there are people who'd tell a depressed person to commit suicide, most of the "what-not-to-says" are said all the time. The question is - what should you say then? It's a tough call...? I guess every depressed person would have different expectations.
Thanks for your insightful and relevant articles.
Regards,
Shafali
Hey Karl,
ReplyDeleteHey great post!!! I know exactly what you mean on the stupid stuff people say when someone is depressed. It's actually kind of annoying. the phrases are so cliche now that it does more harm than good. When I use to smoke, the biggest annoyance I had with people was when they would say "Don't you know that is bad for you?" or "Don't you know that causes xyz?" Of course I knew that?!! I am a smoker (or was). After hearing it so many times it causes problems and I think the same goes with this. You hear it so much, it's just better to listen and give advice when asked. The stuff on that list I would never say to a depressed person. Anyway, good post!!
Nowadays most people are so stress and mess up because of their busy schedules and unhealthy lifestyle. That's why it is no surprised for us that sometimes people commit suicide because of depression. Thanks for sharing this.
ReplyDeleteHi Karl
ReplyDeleteI read the post. I think there are stages of being upset. Being in depression is the extreme stage. Usually when says "I am depressed"..he/she is just little too upset and not depressed as such. Because I saw one person who was genuinely depressed. He could not get angry when people commented on him. He was helpless with no capacity to revolt or react back. It was almost a gone case. Later, he was helped by many professionals and finally could cope up with life. That is what I think depression is. It is extreme.
I think when some one is upset or feels depressed he or she should try to deviate mind by doing some good things.
Really great article, thanks for this. If you find this useful, try reading a few articles from colourstory.com
ReplyDeleteA lot of the articles are worth a read.
Hi,
ReplyDeleteGreat article. The probelm with depression is that there are not many people who are trained to recognize the symptoms. Quite a few times the person himself/herself is not aware of the condition. People around may make inappropriate comments due to ignorance (sometimes even deliberately) which can have a disastrous impact on the depressed person.
Good article Karl. But lets me honest we all go through little phases of depression whether we know it or not. One thing which i usually do when i feel low is that i read self help books.Listening to soothing music also relaxes the mind.
ReplyDeleteSo true. We all go through these depressed phases. I too love and recommend self help books and music because they are so inspiring and music works on your mind in such positive ways.
DeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteI will check the spelling as best I can. Any posts to tell me that have spelling errors I need to correct? Help would be appreciated.
DeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteThis comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
ReplyDeleteVery interesting article! Repeating those stupid cliches probably has the same effect as adding fuel on fire..
ReplyDeleteThank you very much for your article really benefited them so much ..
ReplyDelete