Familiar Places

This week I have returned to the UK and after spending a few days with my parents, (not as easy as it used to be as they have aged now), I am back teaching at Leicester University for six weeks or so.

This annual trip back home to teach has happened each year for the past six years. As we've discussed before it's good to get back home and touch base. But for me the most important part of coming back is to revisit my own feelings and thoughts and see how they have developed over the past year.


I love teaching. Why?

It is a chance to help someone and here in the UK I am helping young people who are far from home. As I return to the UK and work I am back home yet at the same time away from home because my family are back in Turkey. I miss them but experious the joy too of seeing the familiar faces and places where I've been before. This all brings into contrast the important things in life.

So I'm glad to be in Leicester but sad to be away from my dear family.

Keep reading my blog to find out more about how my trip goes and I'll try to include some lessons along the way that will help illuminate your life.

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A new view of yourself...

This week my son bought something amazing. It was a wide angle camera called GoPro and films your sporting activities. Most people use them for extreme sports to take film from incredible angles. I enjoy windsurfing and so we attached the camera to the boom of our windsurf sail and after we got home we checked the film....

Amazing! But what has this got to do with self help I hear you ask..?

Life is, in my opinion, an extreme sport and we usually have a very fixed view of it. We see everything from the same view and that view is biassed. We do not see the truth and we do not see exactly what others see.

Like the camera I mentioned above the shots from the camera are like an entirely different world. We don't see how amazing it is what we are doing when we get into action. When you film it like this you see there is so much more to "reality" than what we normally see. Your ability to walk, run and navigate your world is unbelievable. The world is incredible, yet we don't notice the details.

The message here is that you should take a different view of yourself and understand that you are so much more amazing than you think you are. The reality you believe in is not a true picture of the world, it is so much richer and more amazing than you know.

Open your eyes to the wonder of life and to your abilities today!

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Losing a Loved One Hurts But...

This week has been hard on me and our family as we have lost the oldest member, our dear grandmother who at 93 years old passed away a few days ago. It's been very sad for sure but what has got me through is one important thought.

I wanted to post this in case you have faced such a loss and I hope this thought can help you too.

Feeling sad and depressed about the death of a loved one is actually quite selfish because we are thinking about ourselves and the fact that we will not see them anymore. The correct way to think about this is I believe to take the opportunity to remember all the good things that the person who has died said when they were alive. What do you remember most? What are the great things you most remember about him/ her?

When you think like that you can be thankful for the time you spent together and take this as an opportunity to remember that our time on this earth is limited and ask yourself this important question:

What will people most remember about you after you are gone?

This is something to think about and act upon surely. All good things come to an end. Their ending makes us appreciate them even more. Being reminded of this should inspire us to make the most of our time here and that the most important thing is how you affect others lives.

Thanks for reading this today and please add your comment below and tell me what you think and what you have experienced.

Have a great and inspired day!

Do this and take action to change your life

We often here these days about the difficulties of modern life and how we don' have time to stop and think about where we are going.

Does this sound like you?

When a company has a problem, a group of people sit down and reflect on what is happening and a discussion of tactics follows. What is the best course of action?

Do you sometimes find yourself lost and not knowing what to do or what has gone wrong? Do you wonder what action to take?

You need to take some time out. Perhaps a short break away from the stresses of work or study to reflect.

If you spent one day a week when you sat down and gave yourself some time to think about where you are and where you are going, don't you think that would make a difference?

If you think life is passing you by, then stop a moment and relax. think about what you want and how to get it, even if it's just for five minutes each day.

Set aside some time today to ask yourself these questions:

"Where do you want to go in life?"
"How will you get there?"
"What steps can you take now to move closer to your wishes?"

I wish you luck and would like to know how you find this activity.

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How to think more positively

I know it's hard sometimes to think positively. I have a tip for
you today, I hope it helps you change the way you think.

I often find that when I have a real challenge in my life or a
major decision that I have to be careful to not let fear in and
stay positive. many ask me "how can I think positively?"

To answer this - start asking yourself the how and stop the why
not inside you.

Let me explain..When you want something or need to do something
challenging start asking yourself "How can I do that? How can I
change that?" rather than focusing on the why nots.

Why nots are the reasons why something is difficult or what you
see as obstacles. Change your focus to possibilities rather than
difficulties. Your whole outlook will change.

Remember in any situation and whatever you face in your life you
are not without hope, you do not start from zero. Before you tell
yourself that it is too difficult, go through the advantages you
have. The truth is that you have a lot, even though you may tell
yourself otherwise.

So my message to you this week is this - to start thinking
positively, start with the positives and then ask yourself how
you can build on them.

I wish you success,

Until next week,
Karl Perera

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Is this a wonderful message or what?

I received this wonderful message this week and I wanted to share
it with you...

"One of the basic insights of Truth is the awareness that things
may happen around you, and things may happen to you, but the only
thing that really counts is what happens within you," (Eric
Butterworth).

Whatever circumstances You encounter, no matter what life throws
at You, you are still in control of your attitude. You can always
choose to respond with forgiveness and love.

Do you know one of my biggest mistakes in life? What made me
unhappy and depressed for years?

I couldn't forgive myself and I couldn't love me. I'm talking
about treating yourself with kindness and giving yourself
encouragement as you would someone you care about.

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Change from Inside

Today I want to talk to you about change.

Before you can change your life and what's in it you need to change what's inside you. It's a fact that if you say something like "I hate my life and this is not what I want!" then you're just focusing on what's wrong and you'll get more of that again.

In order to make positive changes in your physical world you need to think differently and feel differently. Ever notice that when you feel good everything seems to go well for you?

The opposite is true when you feel bad and indulge your negative side everything seems to get worse...

I've tried changing where I live and moved to a different country on more than one occasion and my life did change but guess what? My mind went with me and my problems were still there. Given time if you want to chase your dreams and live a better and happier life start by changing inside.

How do you do this?

First you should look at yourself, your thoughts and what you say because this shows what is going on inside you. Is your attitude helping you or holding you back?

Find some time to quieten down and get peaceful. Listen to some gentle music. Ask yourself what you want and begin to see and experience it in your mind.

Read positive books and fill your brain will positive stuff.

Talk to yourself in a positive way. This is called self talk and it will help you to become happier.

Focus on what's good in your life and be thankful.

keep a daily journal of your successes and things that made you happy.

Imagine a car with a poor engine, not serviced and not working properly. It struggles uphill coughing and spluttering and sometimes stops. It lets you down when you need it most.

Your mind is your engine and you cannot hope to be successful or happy without a mind that is functioning correctly and supporting you in facing every challenge that lies in front of you.

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