Last week I sent out a message to my subscribers all about perfectionism. I said the following:
"Do you constantly tell yourself you could have done this better or said that better?"
"Do you spend time worrying how others will respond to you?"
"And when you have a bad day do you go over and over what happened and wish that you had done things differently?"
I got quite a few replies saying there is nothing wrong with trying to improve and of course there isn't. Improvement is progress and looking at how you can have done things better is a good idea if you want to learn from the problems and challenges of life. However, the problem of perfectionism is that you want to improve and even when you do you drive yourself harder.
Perfectionism is a problem that never goes away because you can never be perfect.
Seeking perfectionism is the road to unhappiness and you need to accept that you are not perfect. No one on this planet is. Be happy to do your best and yes learn from it. Try your best always and take setbacks as opportunities to learn and improve yourself. Don't use setbacks to kick yourself and don't be discouraged because setbacks are a natural part of self growth.
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Showing posts with label problems. Show all posts
Showing posts with label problems. Show all posts
Monday, 21 November 2011
Monday, 21 February 2011
How do you think about problems?
When you have a problem to solve or a major challenge in your life, how do you think about it?
Perhaps you have something that you need to do but inside you think that it's very difficult.
I found myself making challenges even worse by focusing on the problem and not on the solution.
Our brains look for problems to solve. There are many around but what do you do when you run into a problem or challenge you need to face?
Sometimes thinking about the problem can make it worse. How?
By focusing on the difficulties and obstacles that lie ahead. If you do this you magnify the problems in your mind and paralyze yourself. You are most likely to take action when you feel you can succeed but focusing on the obstacles and difficulties destroys action.
Are you spending your energy building up your problems until they seem like huge unbreakable walls in front of you?
I have done this to myself many times but now I am convinced that those with vision and a will to succeed are those who can look beyond the problems and difficulties and begin to break down the fear by focusing their energy on solutions.
Think of a challenge you face in your life. Maybe a change you need to make. How have you been thinking about it? Isn't it about time you began to channel your thought and energy into how to move forward and stop focusing on how difficult it all looks?
I'll be back with more very soon...
Take care,
Karl Perera
Perhaps you have something that you need to do but inside you think that it's very difficult.
I found myself making challenges even worse by focusing on the problem and not on the solution.
Our brains look for problems to solve. There are many around but what do you do when you run into a problem or challenge you need to face?
Sometimes thinking about the problem can make it worse. How?
By focusing on the difficulties and obstacles that lie ahead. If you do this you magnify the problems in your mind and paralyze yourself. You are most likely to take action when you feel you can succeed but focusing on the obstacles and difficulties destroys action.
Are you spending your energy building up your problems until they seem like huge unbreakable walls in front of you?
I have done this to myself many times but now I am convinced that those with vision and a will to succeed are those who can look beyond the problems and difficulties and begin to break down the fear by focusing their energy on solutions.
Think of a challenge you face in your life. Maybe a change you need to make. How have you been thinking about it? Isn't it about time you began to channel your thought and energy into how to move forward and stop focusing on how difficult it all looks?
I'll be back with more very soon...
Take care,
Karl Perera
Tuesday, 25 January 2011
Two kinds of people..which are you?
There are TWO kinds of people in this world. I want to ask "Which are you?"
The first type of people are successful but the second type aren't...
Let me explain what these two groups are.
People can be divided according to how they face life's troubles and problems. We're agreed that we all face constant challenges, aren't we?
So what do you do when you face a challenge or problem? Which of the following describes you, Type A or Type B?
If you are Type A then congratulations! When you face a difficult decision or problem in your life you face it head on. No fear. You think about how to overcome the problem not how the problem is going to overcome you. You know there is a solution no matter how difficult it looks. You do not panic. You don't listen to doubts or negativity within you or from anyone else.
If you are Type A you are prepared to move forward and battle until you succeed. Failure is not an option.
If you are Type B, well you need to work on becoming a Type A.
If you're Type B you avoid facing challenges and crave security and safety. Anything unfamiliar or difficult scares you. You prefer to avoid confrontation and keep your thoughts and ideas to yourself, that way no one can make fun of you. Fear is very much part of your aproach to life and it's problems.
Which type are you?
Next post I'll talk about how you can become a Type A and learn to face up to your challenges without fear.
Change is not something to fear but something to embrace.
Please leave a comment below and come back to read my next post as we'll cover some really important stuff!
Take care,
Karl Perera
Are you depressed?
Try this Test for Depression
The first type of people are successful but the second type aren't...
Let me explain what these two groups are.
People can be divided according to how they face life's troubles and problems. We're agreed that we all face constant challenges, aren't we?
So what do you do when you face a challenge or problem? Which of the following describes you, Type A or Type B?
If you are Type A then congratulations! When you face a difficult decision or problem in your life you face it head on. No fear. You think about how to overcome the problem not how the problem is going to overcome you. You know there is a solution no matter how difficult it looks. You do not panic. You don't listen to doubts or negativity within you or from anyone else.
If you are Type A you are prepared to move forward and battle until you succeed. Failure is not an option.
If you are Type B, well you need to work on becoming a Type A.
If you're Type B you avoid facing challenges and crave security and safety. Anything unfamiliar or difficult scares you. You prefer to avoid confrontation and keep your thoughts and ideas to yourself, that way no one can make fun of you. Fear is very much part of your aproach to life and it's problems.
Which type are you?
Next post I'll talk about how you can become a Type A and learn to face up to your challenges without fear.
Change is not something to fear but something to embrace.
Please leave a comment below and come back to read my next post as we'll cover some really important stuff!
Take care,
Karl Perera
Are you depressed?
Try this Test for Depression
Monday, 10 May 2010
What Everyone Ought to Know about Focus - Positive thinking Tip #8
Focus is extremely important. Ever heard of the law of attraction? What you spend your time thinking about is what you bring into your life...
My tip today is to change your focus from negative to positive. Ever find yourself thinking about your problems or difficulties? Are those thoughts making you worry and causing you pain? Sometimes I find myself thinking about the situation I find myself in and how painful it is. Sometimes when I don't realize it my mind seems to magnify the difficulty and I begin to see problems and not solutions. It begins to look hopeless. This is negative thought going crazy...
You need to stop this cycle but how?
Simple. Focus not on the problems or difficulties, not on the lack but on what is good, what is right and what you enjoy about your life. Is that impossible?
NO!!
Even if your life needs improving and you feel bad you can change that round and look for what is already good and already right rather than concentrate and focus on what is missing.
Remember focusing on the positive no matter how small will do the following for you:
1- make you think more positively
2- give you hope
3 - make you feel happier
4 - make it more likely your life will improve
5 - make you less stressed
6 - attract the things you want
So today stop yourself and check where your focus is and direct your thoughts as a conductor directs the orchestra. You want to start creating a life you love and that comes from within you.
I must tell you about an exciting course I just found. If you're interested in bringing more success and happiness into your life, I'd give this a try now: It's called The 11 Forgotten Laws (by Bob Proctor and Mary Morissey)- Check it out now
My tip today is to change your focus from negative to positive. Ever find yourself thinking about your problems or difficulties? Are those thoughts making you worry and causing you pain? Sometimes I find myself thinking about the situation I find myself in and how painful it is. Sometimes when I don't realize it my mind seems to magnify the difficulty and I begin to see problems and not solutions. It begins to look hopeless. This is negative thought going crazy...
You need to stop this cycle but how?
Simple. Focus not on the problems or difficulties, not on the lack but on what is good, what is right and what you enjoy about your life. Is that impossible?
NO!!
Even if your life needs improving and you feel bad you can change that round and look for what is already good and already right rather than concentrate and focus on what is missing.
Remember focusing on the positive no matter how small will do the following for you:
1- make you think more positively
2- give you hope
3 - make you feel happier
4 - make it more likely your life will improve
5 - make you less stressed
6 - attract the things you want
So today stop yourself and check where your focus is and direct your thoughts as a conductor directs the orchestra. You want to start creating a life you love and that comes from within you.
I must tell you about an exciting course I just found. If you're interested in bringing more success and happiness into your life, I'd give this a try now: It's called The 11 Forgotten Laws (by Bob Proctor and Mary Morissey)- Check it out now
Friday, 9 April 2010
Quote for today...
Here's a great quote for you today:
"Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
- Henry Ford
What is your goal? Do have something you really want and desire right now?
Are you working towards achieving it and if not, what's stopping you?
It's amazing that when you really go for what you want, nothing can stop you but as soon as you begin to doubt - guess what? You see problems, obstacles in your way.
You can either focus on the goal you want to achieve or on the problems facing you and the obstacles in your path. You cannot do both.
If you want to succeed and achieve your desires in life you need to always have your eyes on your goal.
Read more about goals here
"Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
- Henry Ford
What is your goal? Do have something you really want and desire right now?
Are you working towards achieving it and if not, what's stopping you?
It's amazing that when you really go for what you want, nothing can stop you but as soon as you begin to doubt - guess what? You see problems, obstacles in your way.
You can either focus on the goal you want to achieve or on the problems facing you and the obstacles in your path. You cannot do both.
If you want to succeed and achieve your desires in life you need to always have your eyes on your goal.
Read more about goals here
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