An Exciting Announcement and a Personal Ambition Realised..

I'm so excited to tell you that I have just launched my new book on Amazon.com!

It is a paperback version of my e-book which I have updated because I received so many requests for a physical version of the ebook.

You can order a copy here:

"Self esteem Secrets" - Get my Book Now 

"To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world."

Until next week,

Take care,

Karl Perera

How do you think about problems?

When you have a problem to solve or a major challenge in your life, how do you think about it?

Perhaps you have something that you need to do but inside you think that it's very difficult.

I found myself making challenges even worse by focusing on the problem and not on the solution.

Our brains look for problems to solve. There are many around but what do you do when you run into a problem or challenge you need to face?

Sometimes thinking about the problem can make it worse. How?

By focusing on the difficulties and obstacles that lie ahead. If you do this you magnify the problems in your mind and paralyze yourself. You are most likely to take action when you feel you can succeed but focusing on the obstacles and difficulties destroys action.

Are you spending your energy building up your problems until they seem like huge unbreakable walls in front of you?

I have done this to myself many times but now I am convinced that those with vision and a will to succeed are those who can look beyond the problems and difficulties and begin to break down the fear by focusing their energy on solutions.

Think of a challenge you face in your life. Maybe a change you need to make. How have you been thinking about it? Isn't it about time you began to channel your thought and energy into how to move forward and stop focusing on how difficult it all looks?

I'll be back with more very soon...

Take care,
Karl Perera

After 17 Years in Turkey...

I've been living in Turkey for 17 years and I won't pretend it's been easy. I was born in England but moved to Turkey when I was in my 30s. I often thought about returning to England but for one reason or another the fates have conspired to keep me here.

Have you ever asked yourself why your life is the way it is? I mean have you asked yourself why you are where you are? Why have things worked out that way?

When I look at things, the culture here is quite difficult for me to live with. I find it challenging in so many ways. The people here are very nice but stubbornly set in their ways and don't get me started about this being a logic-free country!

There is a point to this post that I think you'll get a lot out of...

It is that I've concluded that the reason I am here is to live through these difficulties and why...?

I am slowly finally learning how to keep calm under stress, hold in my thoughts and respect others even though they seem to act so differently from me. The best way to relate with people is not to react even when they act totally illogically. There is no point in trying to tell anyone, especially from a different culture, that they are unbelievably blind to the obvious.

Today I am sure that being here, despite the constant stress and culture clash, it has forced me to confront the intollerance within me. I am the one who is meant to progress and I can't make others do the same.

So maybe the time to leave is approaching as the lesson is being learnt. I hope this will make me a better person.

So next time you feel like screaming at someone or lecturing them why they are completely wrong, think again and laugh and let it go...

It's not impossible. I am finally letting it go, there is less frustration that way.

My new Book...on Amazon.com

My new book is nearly ready - just waiting for final approval of the updated version then soon I will put it up for sale on Amazon...

I'm very excited about this because I always wanted to be an author.

The book is the physical version, updated and edited of my e-book "Self esteem Secrets".

In my upcoming book you can discover the twelve steps to a high level of self esteem. I also outline what that will mean to you. How would more self esteem change your life?

Here's my newly designed cover for the book, love to have your opinion on the look and feel of the book cover:

just comment below...

Karl

Two kinds of people..which are you?

There are TWO kinds of people in this world. I want to ask "Which are you?"

The first type of people are successful but the second type aren't...

Let me explain what these two groups are.

People can be divided according to how they face life's troubles and problems. We're agreed that we all face constant challenges, aren't we?

So what do you do when you face a challenge or problem? Which of the following describes you, Type A or Type B?

If you are Type A then congratulations! When you face a difficult decision or problem in your life you face it head on. No fear. You think about how to overcome the problem not how the problem is going to overcome you. You know there is a solution no matter how difficult it looks. You do not panic. You don't listen to doubts or negativity within you or from anyone else.

If you are Type A you are prepared to move forward and battle until you succeed. Failure is not an option.

If you are Type B, well you need to work on becoming a Type A.

If you're Type B you avoid facing challenges and crave security and safety. Anything unfamiliar or difficult scares you. You prefer to avoid confrontation and keep your thoughts and ideas to yourself, that way no one can make fun of you. Fear is very much part of your aproach to life and it's problems.

Which type are you?

Next post I'll talk about how you can become a Type A and learn to face up to your challenges without fear.
Change is not something to fear but something to embrace.

Please leave a comment below and come back to read my next post as we'll cover some really important stuff!

Take care,
Karl Perera

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Happy New Year

How has this year been for you? I hope it's been a year of improvement
and that you've experienced the following:

- friendship. With 6 billion people on the face of this earth all you
need is ONE close friend. It is my wish that you are lucky enough to
possess the thing more precious than gold itself - true friendship

- joy. Now everyone, including myself, faces unhappiness at times but
 I really hope you've experienced moments of joy. Treasure those moments and re-live them when things get difficult.

 - satisfaction. That you have succeeded or achieved something worthwhile. One of the best things you could achieve today is to put a smile on someone's face..:)

 - hope. I have a hope that the world will be a better place, it doesn't seem like reality but I can't give up hoping. You shouldn't either. There is always hope, no matter what others tell you. If you truly believe in something don't give up until you get it.

 - enlightenment. It could come from anywhere. Inspiration. Learning. Read and look to discover the truth in the world around you. Don't just believe everything you see and hear on the TV.

 - peace. A very valuable emotion. Inner peace is truly what we all need. I hope that sometime during the last year you experienced the stillness and quiet and felt true peace in your heart, even if just for a few moments.

 - love. Did you love someone or something this year? Did that love bring you some happiness. I really hope it did. You deserve love and keep telling yourself that. Go after what you love.

 - awe. The world is an amazing place. I truly hope that there were times that you saw or experienced something that took your breath away. The incredible beauty and power of this world and the natural
 things within it constantly remind me that my being here is more than chance and is a miracle.

 I hope this last year was filled with feelings and emotions that remind us what a wonderful thing it is to be alive. Even if there was also suffering or pain, then I pray you learn to focus on those great moments and find motivation in the good.

 My personal message to you is my sincere wish that this Christmas will bring you peace and joy that will spread into the year ahead. I hope to continue to try to inspire you each week and hope that in some
 small way I can help you build your self esteem and find the real you inside.

 Happy New Year...

Plans for the New Year...

Before I hop on a plane from Turkey to Austria (where I'll be spending Christmas and the New Year) I would like to share with you what I plan for the next year.

Now:

I have redesigned my depression site - check and let me know what you think

Please comment below,if you visit the site.


My kindle version of self esteem secrets can be downloaded here

Coming soon:

I have created a physical book version of "Self Esteem Secrets" and will soon put it on Amazon.com.