Sometimes life just gets too much, don't you agree? Do you ever feel that you can't make clear decisions because your brain is tired and confused?
You need to take care of yourself when life challenges you. One thing I always find helpful is the power of silence.
I experienced it only a few times but it is really something that makes a big difference.
It is often difficult to find a quiet place - if you are lucky enough to live near an open space such as a forest or mountain or the countryside away from the city then take advantage of the silence. Sometimes we need to shut our brains down, breath gently and stop thinking. Noise prevents you from doing this.
So go somewhere silent. Not just quiet, but silent if you can. The silence will rest you. Certain sounds in nature are also restful so birds or water are not a problem but if you can find absolute silence it will work its magic on you. Close your eyes and stop thinking, relax for a while and rest.
If you do this it will bring you energy and clarity and help you become stronger.
Look after yourself and refresh your mind and this will help you in your life.
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Thursday, 31 May 2012
Sunday, 7 November 2010
You get what you expect from others...
In this short article I am going to talk about how those who suffer from low self esteem get what they expect from others. That is, they anticipate that someone will react to what they say or do in a certain way and guess what, they do!
This is called self-fulfilling prophecy.
This expectation causes the person to bring about their own self destruction.
After explaining exactly what is going on we'll also look at how anybody who has low self esteem can take corrective action and help improve how they communicate with others in order to boost self esteem and confidence rather than self destruct...
Generally if you suffer from low self esteem then you'll also think negatively of yourself and expect anything you say to others to be received negatively. Guess what, this is exactly what will happen. What you fear will come true. what you're doing is confirming that you are correct to think of yourself negatively. You are justifying your negative thinking and feelings of low self esteem. How you do this is by acting in a way that will make the other person act the way you expect.
Maybe you use negative body language or stutter or get confused or maybe you panic or blush. Your mind is actually working against you. all because your brain is trying to prove to you that your feelings of insecurity are correct.
You don't have to go through this forever. You can turn this around and start to build your confidence as you do so. How?
First, learn to slow down and breath evenly and relax.
Second, very important this one. No matter how you feel smile.
Third, say something positive to yourself and imagine you look confident.
These steps can help you to start to expect the opposite, a positive reaction. Look for a friendly smile from the other person and note that a question means the other person is interested in what you have to say.
Just go from there and build up the conversation. Try to talk but not too much, listen also. Nervous people often forget to listen and then get embarrassed when they forget what the other person said or they make an error.
Good luck you're a step closer to building your self esteem.
Did you find these tips about building self esteem useful? You can learn a lot more here:
Self Confidence Tips
This is called self-fulfilling prophecy.
This expectation causes the person to bring about their own self destruction.
After explaining exactly what is going on we'll also look at how anybody who has low self esteem can take corrective action and help improve how they communicate with others in order to boost self esteem and confidence rather than self destruct...
Generally if you suffer from low self esteem then you'll also think negatively of yourself and expect anything you say to others to be received negatively. Guess what, this is exactly what will happen. What you fear will come true. what you're doing is confirming that you are correct to think of yourself negatively. You are justifying your negative thinking and feelings of low self esteem. How you do this is by acting in a way that will make the other person act the way you expect.
Maybe you use negative body language or stutter or get confused or maybe you panic or blush. Your mind is actually working against you. all because your brain is trying to prove to you that your feelings of insecurity are correct.
You don't have to go through this forever. You can turn this around and start to build your confidence as you do so. How?
First, learn to slow down and breath evenly and relax.
Second, very important this one. No matter how you feel smile.
Third, say something positive to yourself and imagine you look confident.
These steps can help you to start to expect the opposite, a positive reaction. Look for a friendly smile from the other person and note that a question means the other person is interested in what you have to say.
Just go from there and build up the conversation. Try to talk but not too much, listen also. Nervous people often forget to listen and then get embarrassed when they forget what the other person said or they make an error.
Good luck you're a step closer to building your self esteem.
Did you find these tips about building self esteem useful? You can learn a lot more here:
Self Confidence Tips
Friday, 18 December 2009
Depression at Christmas...
I know that depression can be such a big problem at this time of year so I decided to look for an inspirational video to post here. I found two...
It is so important to use this holiday season, (for most of you are about to celebrate Christmas and others the New Year), to take time out to focus on what's truly important to you. Also it is a great time to relax and winter gives you the opportunity to do that (yes I know it's hot there in Australia and New Zealand but still you can relax on the beach!)
Here's a great video which puts Christmas into perspective. If you're sad at all I hope it helps to change your mood:
It is important to relax and if you have a holiday use it to do that at least in part. Take a look at this page and at the video I've just posted (the first one) and relax as you watch it:
http://www.depression-helper.com/video.htm
Take care,
Karl Perera
It is so important to use this holiday season, (for most of you are about to celebrate Christmas and others the New Year), to take time out to focus on what's truly important to you. Also it is a great time to relax and winter gives you the opportunity to do that (yes I know it's hot there in Australia and New Zealand but still you can relax on the beach!)
Here's a great video which puts Christmas into perspective. If you're sad at all I hope it helps to change your mood:
It is important to relax and if you have a holiday use it to do that at least in part. Take a look at this page and at the video I've just posted (the first one) and relax as you watch it:
http://www.depression-helper.com/video.htm
Take care,
Karl Perera
Saturday, 15 August 2009
Top 5 Tips to Conquer your Fear of Public Speaking
Does public speaking scare you? Did you know that in a famous poll which asked "what is your no.1 fear?" That the second most common answer was death. What was the top answer? What could be more scary than death...?
That answer was public speaking. So here are five great tips to beat your fear of making speeches,giving presentations or whatever form of public speaking awaits you.
Plan, Plan, Plan, Plan
The old saying is still true - fail to plan then plan to fail... The key to delivering a successful speech is to know your material, write about what interests you and speak about something you are passionate about - for some it's much easier to talk about cars then finance. Always plan out what is appropriate for your audience, if it's something with a lot of data or numbers - then it may be more appropriate to include a variety of print outs whereas a meeting about cars could have a slide show on a projector with a variety of cars you will talk about. Sometimes you don't get to choose what you get to talk about and so you just have to find your own personal way to discuss the topic that has a personal touch, something that makes it unique.
Learn Your Material
You will find it amazingly easier to deliver a speech that you know what your talking about and that you have rehearsed, rather then one that you finished writing and printing the night before. Preparation is essentially the key to doing well in a speech and you will find that over preparing will never hurt.
The Delivery
Okay, so your standing in front of a crowd and it doesn't matter how big that crowd is, you may be feeling like your heart is beating at 150 miles an hour. Everything is moving so fast, and you hear your name called to start your speech. You feel queasy inside and as you open your mouth to say a word, you feel no moisture - just a dry mouth. This is what you will feel like most likely and don't worry, there are many other people who feel the exact same way when delivering a speech. This is how you may feel at the beginning but when you finish speaking you will feel completely different if you manage to keep the audience interested and maintain in control of yourself.
Do's and Do Not's
Do: Relax
Before you start, take a deep breath and just build yourself up. My favorite quote to say when I am in that position is to say, 'I can achieve whatever I believe'. Keep taking deep breaths whenever you need to, your audience will be thankful that you are pacing every now and then - it also gives them a chance to soak in the information. If you have the option, you can take a sip of water every now and then as a breather break.
Don't: Apologize for a Mistake
Don't apologize for a mistake. People most likely didn't notice it and stopping and saying, 'I'm sorry - that wasn't meant to be there' is more likely going to do more harm then good. Just continue on like you didn't even notice you made a mistake, it's the same concept when performing in a dance competition or a music recital - don't stop if you mess up - just continue and show you have the ability to adapt to any situation.
Do: Enthusiasm
Nobody likes a speech without enthusiasm and you will often find it may be difficult to speak up and project your voice but it will involve your audience and be worth it in the end.
Don't: Worry about Blushing/Embarrassment
Everyone hates speaking in a crowd (well mostly everyone - including me) and naturally some people will blush or get 'red faced'. The more you worry about it, the more people will take notice to it. If you focus your energy on engaging your listeners and forget about the blushing then it will fade as soon as it arrived and less people will care about it because you obviously don't seem to.
The Aftermath
You did it! You finished your speech and guess what? You're still alive and I am sure you even got a hand of applause when you finished. Feels good doesn't it? Well, you put in the hard work and survived - take a deep breath and acknowledge any complements with a quick thanks.
These tips were written by my good friend Christopher Newman.
Want to learn more about how to succeed at public speaking? I will soon be releasing an instructional audio which will help you through the fear of making speeches and presentations and guide you to success...
There will be two audios one about self esteem and one about public speaking. Look out for these in the next week or so!
SELF ESTEEM AND PUBLIC SPEAKING AUDIOS TO BE RELEASED SOON - GET ONE OR BOTH FOR A GREAT PRICE HERE - NEWS COMING IN THE NEXT FEW DAYS!!
That answer was public speaking. So here are five great tips to beat your fear of making speeches,giving presentations or whatever form of public speaking awaits you.
Plan, Plan, Plan, Plan
The old saying is still true - fail to plan then plan to fail... The key to delivering a successful speech is to know your material, write about what interests you and speak about something you are passionate about - for some it's much easier to talk about cars then finance. Always plan out what is appropriate for your audience, if it's something with a lot of data or numbers - then it may be more appropriate to include a variety of print outs whereas a meeting about cars could have a slide show on a projector with a variety of cars you will talk about. Sometimes you don't get to choose what you get to talk about and so you just have to find your own personal way to discuss the topic that has a personal touch, something that makes it unique.
Learn Your Material
You will find it amazingly easier to deliver a speech that you know what your talking about and that you have rehearsed, rather then one that you finished writing and printing the night before. Preparation is essentially the key to doing well in a speech and you will find that over preparing will never hurt.
The Delivery
Okay, so your standing in front of a crowd and it doesn't matter how big that crowd is, you may be feeling like your heart is beating at 150 miles an hour. Everything is moving so fast, and you hear your name called to start your speech. You feel queasy inside and as you open your mouth to say a word, you feel no moisture - just a dry mouth. This is what you will feel like most likely and don't worry, there are many other people who feel the exact same way when delivering a speech. This is how you may feel at the beginning but when you finish speaking you will feel completely different if you manage to keep the audience interested and maintain in control of yourself.
Do's and Do Not's
Do: Relax
Before you start, take a deep breath and just build yourself up. My favorite quote to say when I am in that position is to say, 'I can achieve whatever I believe'. Keep taking deep breaths whenever you need to, your audience will be thankful that you are pacing every now and then - it also gives them a chance to soak in the information. If you have the option, you can take a sip of water every now and then as a breather break.
Don't: Apologize for a Mistake
Don't apologize for a mistake. People most likely didn't notice it and stopping and saying, 'I'm sorry - that wasn't meant to be there' is more likely going to do more harm then good. Just continue on like you didn't even notice you made a mistake, it's the same concept when performing in a dance competition or a music recital - don't stop if you mess up - just continue and show you have the ability to adapt to any situation.
Do: Enthusiasm
Nobody likes a speech without enthusiasm and you will often find it may be difficult to speak up and project your voice but it will involve your audience and be worth it in the end.
Don't: Worry about Blushing/Embarrassment
Everyone hates speaking in a crowd (well mostly everyone - including me) and naturally some people will blush or get 'red faced'. The more you worry about it, the more people will take notice to it. If you focus your energy on engaging your listeners and forget about the blushing then it will fade as soon as it arrived and less people will care about it because you obviously don't seem to.
The Aftermath
You did it! You finished your speech and guess what? You're still alive and I am sure you even got a hand of applause when you finished. Feels good doesn't it? Well, you put in the hard work and survived - take a deep breath and acknowledge any complements with a quick thanks.
These tips were written by my good friend Christopher Newman.
Want to learn more about how to succeed at public speaking? I will soon be releasing an instructional audio which will help you through the fear of making speeches and presentations and guide you to success...
There will be two audios one about self esteem and one about public speaking. Look out for these in the next week or so!
SELF ESTEEM AND PUBLIC SPEAKING AUDIOS TO BE RELEASED SOON - GET ONE OR BOTH FOR A GREAT PRICE HERE - NEWS COMING IN THE NEXT FEW DAYS!!
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