2011 is just round the corner and so I thought I would send you a
personal message and say a big thank you for visiting my website,
signing up and reading the emails I send each week.
How has this year been for you? I hope it's been a year of
improvement and that you've experienced the following:
- friendship. With 6 billion people on the face of this earth all
you need is ONE close friend. It is my wish that you are lucky
enough to possess the thing more precious than gold itself - true
friendship
- joy. Now everyone, including myself, faces unhappiness at times
but I really hope you've experienced moments of joy. Treasure
those moments and re-live them when things get difficult.
- satisfaction. That you have succeeded or achieved something
worthwhile. One of the best things you could achieve today is to
put a smile on someone's face..:)
- hope. I have a hope that the world will be a better place, it
doesn't seem like reality but I can't give up hoping. You
shouldn't either. There is always hope, no matter what others
tell you. If you truly believe in something don't give up until
you get it.
- enlightenment. It could come from anywhere. Inspiration.
Learning. Read and look to discover the truth in the world around
you. Don't just believe everything you see and hear on the TV.
- peace. A very valuable emotion. Inner peace is truly what we
all need. I hope that sometime during the last year you
experienced the stillness and quiet and felt true peace in your
heart, even if just for a few moments.
- love. Did you love someone or something this year? Did that
love bring you some happiness. I really hope it did. You deserve
love and keep telling yourself that. Go after what you love.
- awe. The world is an amazing place. I truly hope that there
were times that you saw or experienced something that took your
breath away. The incredible beauty and power of this world and
the natural things within it constantly remind me that my being
here is more than chance and is a miracle.
I hope this last year was filled with feelings and emotions that
remind us what a wonderful thing it is to be alive. Even if there
was also suffering or pain, then I pray you learn to focus on
those great moments and find motivation in the good.
My personal message to you is my sincere wish that this Christmas
will bring you peace and joy that will spread into the year
ahead. I hope to continue to try to inspire you each week and
hope that in some small way I can help you build your self esteem
and find the real you inside.
Happy New Year...
My best wishes to you,
Take care,
Karl Perera
Author of "Self Esteem Secrets"
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Wednesday, 22 December 2010
Sunday, 7 November 2010
You get what you expect from others...
In this short article I am going to talk about how those who suffer from low self esteem get what they expect from others. That is, they anticipate that someone will react to what they say or do in a certain way and guess what, they do!
This is called self-fulfilling prophecy.
This expectation causes the person to bring about their own self destruction.
After explaining exactly what is going on we'll also look at how anybody who has low self esteem can take corrective action and help improve how they communicate with others in order to boost self esteem and confidence rather than self destruct...
Generally if you suffer from low self esteem then you'll also think negatively of yourself and expect anything you say to others to be received negatively. Guess what, this is exactly what will happen. What you fear will come true. what you're doing is confirming that you are correct to think of yourself negatively. You are justifying your negative thinking and feelings of low self esteem. How you do this is by acting in a way that will make the other person act the way you expect.
Maybe you use negative body language or stutter or get confused or maybe you panic or blush. Your mind is actually working against you. all because your brain is trying to prove to you that your feelings of insecurity are correct.
You don't have to go through this forever. You can turn this around and start to build your confidence as you do so. How?
First, learn to slow down and breath evenly and relax.
Second, very important this one. No matter how you feel smile.
Third, say something positive to yourself and imagine you look confident.
These steps can help you to start to expect the opposite, a positive reaction. Look for a friendly smile from the other person and note that a question means the other person is interested in what you have to say.
Just go from there and build up the conversation. Try to talk but not too much, listen also. Nervous people often forget to listen and then get embarrassed when they forget what the other person said or they make an error.
Good luck you're a step closer to building your self esteem.
Did you find these tips about building self esteem useful? You can learn a lot more here:
Self Confidence Tips
This is called self-fulfilling prophecy.
This expectation causes the person to bring about their own self destruction.
After explaining exactly what is going on we'll also look at how anybody who has low self esteem can take corrective action and help improve how they communicate with others in order to boost self esteem and confidence rather than self destruct...
Generally if you suffer from low self esteem then you'll also think negatively of yourself and expect anything you say to others to be received negatively. Guess what, this is exactly what will happen. What you fear will come true. what you're doing is confirming that you are correct to think of yourself negatively. You are justifying your negative thinking and feelings of low self esteem. How you do this is by acting in a way that will make the other person act the way you expect.
Maybe you use negative body language or stutter or get confused or maybe you panic or blush. Your mind is actually working against you. all because your brain is trying to prove to you that your feelings of insecurity are correct.
You don't have to go through this forever. You can turn this around and start to build your confidence as you do so. How?
First, learn to slow down and breath evenly and relax.
Second, very important this one. No matter how you feel smile.
Third, say something positive to yourself and imagine you look confident.
These steps can help you to start to expect the opposite, a positive reaction. Look for a friendly smile from the other person and note that a question means the other person is interested in what you have to say.
Just go from there and build up the conversation. Try to talk but not too much, listen also. Nervous people often forget to listen and then get embarrassed when they forget what the other person said or they make an error.
Good luck you're a step closer to building your self esteem.
Did you find these tips about building self esteem useful? You can learn a lot more here:
Self Confidence Tips
Wednesday, 21 July 2010
Instant Be Happy Video
I'm sending you a link to an inspiring video , I hope it helps you to get positive..
Click here now to watch the video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXI80TqAMQQ
(If you have trouble viewing the video because YouTube is banned in some countries then use a proxy - go to proxy.org or do a search for proxy on Google)
That video will remind you of what is really important in life and I hope it will motivate you and bring a smile to your face. Let me know what you think of the video.
I wish you happiness this week and beyond,
take care,
Karl Perera
Depression help and advice that will increase your happiness, self esteem, self confidence and success includes courses, books and articles and more!
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