As my first post of the New Year thought I'd like to tell you about what I've been up to recently.
First, I have produced a number of new articles and pages about both depression and self esteem and I plan to write even more soon. Here are two new pages I've written on Squidoo:
Building your self esteem - my lens is about exactly what is says how to build your self esteem and lots more including how to test your level of self esteem and confidence right now
Depression self help guide - again I think pretty self-explanatory. It's about how to help yourself overcome depression with some great ideas.
So if you'd like to improve your self esteem or if you suffer from depression, do yourself a favour and visit the above pages.
I also advise you to check out my articles on ezine articles where I am an expert author: topics include bipolar depression, depression tests and how to build self esteem and much more:
Depression and Self Esteem Articles
Showing posts with label confidence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label confidence. Show all posts
Saturday, 7 January 2012
Thursday, 20 October 2011
A Formula for Success..
Today I'd like to give you a little motivation...
Let me ask you "Do you know a formula for success?"
Would you like to know THE secret of success, however you define that?
Well here it is - The Secrets to Success is:
FOCUS + ACTION + PERSISTENCE
Let's look at each of these in turn.
First, you need to focus on what you want. Really focus and that means making a clear picture in your mind, hearing and feeling whatever it is that you are aiming for. Experience in your imagination as if you have what you want.
Second, time to take action. Just thinking about it doesn't make it happen, whatever they tell you in "The Secret". You need to plan how you will take steps to move closer to your goal. Success comes from making it happen.
Third, persistence. Never give up trying. If you are not happy with how you are progressing try a different route. There are always alternative ways to achieve any goal. You always have other choices. Never give up. Success is always preceded with what some see as failure and others see as temporary setbacks. Don't let this stop you, keep moving forward.
That's it. You WILL be successful if you follow this formula.
A big problem that may be holding you back from achieving what you want in life could be low self esteem. Check out my website More Self Esteem for help building your self esteem and confidence.
Let me ask you "Do you know a formula for success?"
Would you like to know THE secret of success, however you define that?
Well here it is - The Secrets to Success is:
FOCUS + ACTION + PERSISTENCE
Let's look at each of these in turn.
First, you need to focus on what you want. Really focus and that means making a clear picture in your mind, hearing and feeling whatever it is that you are aiming for. Experience in your imagination as if you have what you want.
Second, time to take action. Just thinking about it doesn't make it happen, whatever they tell you in "The Secret". You need to plan how you will take steps to move closer to your goal. Success comes from making it happen.
Third, persistence. Never give up trying. If you are not happy with how you are progressing try a different route. There are always alternative ways to achieve any goal. You always have other choices. Never give up. Success is always preceded with what some see as failure and others see as temporary setbacks. Don't let this stop you, keep moving forward.
That's it. You WILL be successful if you follow this formula.
A big problem that may be holding you back from achieving what you want in life could be low self esteem. Check out my website More Self Esteem for help building your self esteem and confidence.
Friday, 14 October 2011
Do Your Beliefs Help You?
Are you happy with your life right now?
If not, what can you do about it?
Today I'd like to ask you to examine your beliefs. Now beware...Some of these beliefs may be hidden deep within your brain so you may have to ask searching questions and think carefully to find an answer.
Many people come to me for Coaching and need help with self esteem or confidence issues. They want steps that they can follow to build self esteem or become more confident. In Life Coaching we know that the most powerful changes that we can help someone make come from questioning beliefs.
What are you beliefs?
Ask yourself "What do I believe about myself?"
"What do I believe I can do well?"
"What do I believe I don't do well?"
"How do I believe others see me?"
"What do I believe is possible in my life?"
Self esteem is so important but before you try to boost yours ask yourself:
"What do I believe I deserve?"
When you ask these kinds of questions you must be very honest. You can easily fool yourself.
When you have discovered what your main beliefs are then you need to figure out which beliefs help you and which don't.
Once you know which beliefs limit you and hold you back preventing you from being happy or achieving your goals then you can do something about it.
The next step will be to replace those limiting beliefs by ones that help you move closer to living the life you want.
I hope you have enjoyed this short post, there is more coming soon.
If you'd like one to one help from me, try a free 50 minute Life Coaching session - leave a comment below with your email or contact me
If not, what can you do about it?
Today I'd like to ask you to examine your beliefs. Now beware...Some of these beliefs may be hidden deep within your brain so you may have to ask searching questions and think carefully to find an answer.
Many people come to me for Coaching and need help with self esteem or confidence issues. They want steps that they can follow to build self esteem or become more confident. In Life Coaching we know that the most powerful changes that we can help someone make come from questioning beliefs.
What are you beliefs?
Ask yourself "What do I believe about myself?"
"What do I believe I can do well?"
"What do I believe I don't do well?"
"How do I believe others see me?"
"What do I believe is possible in my life?"
Self esteem is so important but before you try to boost yours ask yourself:
"What do I believe I deserve?"
When you ask these kinds of questions you must be very honest. You can easily fool yourself.
When you have discovered what your main beliefs are then you need to figure out which beliefs help you and which don't.
Once you know which beliefs limit you and hold you back preventing you from being happy or achieving your goals then you can do something about it.
The next step will be to replace those limiting beliefs by ones that help you move closer to living the life you want.
I hope you have enjoyed this short post, there is more coming soon.
If you'd like one to one help from me, try a free 50 minute Life Coaching session - leave a comment below with your email or contact me
Wednesday, 30 March 2011
How to Master Self Esteem...
"To master self esteem one has to know God gave you a unique identity that comes with authority.Look at every one who lives and walks confidently,they understand their uniqueness and for one i have began my great walk of confidence and self esteem.I have to let everyone know that there's no one like me.I am here,if anyone doesn't like it its their problem.
This is what you should say to yourselves to attain a strength beyond your imagination.
One last thing,walk with your head up high,it helps you adapt to the confident walk."
This came from Edwin and I publish it here because I think the comments are so true!
Be back soon with more inspiration,
Karl Perera
Author of "Self Esteem Secrets - 12 Steps to Success" now on Amazon.com:
This is what you should say to yourselves to attain a strength beyond your imagination.
One last thing,walk with your head up high,it helps you adapt to the confident walk."
This came from Edwin and I publish it here because I think the comments are so true!
Be back soon with more inspiration,
Karl Perera
Author of "Self Esteem Secrets - 12 Steps to Success" now on Amazon.com:
Sunday, 7 November 2010
You get what you expect from others...
In this short article I am going to talk about how those who suffer from low self esteem get what they expect from others. That is, they anticipate that someone will react to what they say or do in a certain way and guess what, they do!
This is called self-fulfilling prophecy.
This expectation causes the person to bring about their own self destruction.
After explaining exactly what is going on we'll also look at how anybody who has low self esteem can take corrective action and help improve how they communicate with others in order to boost self esteem and confidence rather than self destruct...
Generally if you suffer from low self esteem then you'll also think negatively of yourself and expect anything you say to others to be received negatively. Guess what, this is exactly what will happen. What you fear will come true. what you're doing is confirming that you are correct to think of yourself negatively. You are justifying your negative thinking and feelings of low self esteem. How you do this is by acting in a way that will make the other person act the way you expect.
Maybe you use negative body language or stutter or get confused or maybe you panic or blush. Your mind is actually working against you. all because your brain is trying to prove to you that your feelings of insecurity are correct.
You don't have to go through this forever. You can turn this around and start to build your confidence as you do so. How?
First, learn to slow down and breath evenly and relax.
Second, very important this one. No matter how you feel smile.
Third, say something positive to yourself and imagine you look confident.
These steps can help you to start to expect the opposite, a positive reaction. Look for a friendly smile from the other person and note that a question means the other person is interested in what you have to say.
Just go from there and build up the conversation. Try to talk but not too much, listen also. Nervous people often forget to listen and then get embarrassed when they forget what the other person said or they make an error.
Good luck you're a step closer to building your self esteem.
Did you find these tips about building self esteem useful? You can learn a lot more here:
Self Confidence Tips
This is called self-fulfilling prophecy.
This expectation causes the person to bring about their own self destruction.
After explaining exactly what is going on we'll also look at how anybody who has low self esteem can take corrective action and help improve how they communicate with others in order to boost self esteem and confidence rather than self destruct...
Generally if you suffer from low self esteem then you'll also think negatively of yourself and expect anything you say to others to be received negatively. Guess what, this is exactly what will happen. What you fear will come true. what you're doing is confirming that you are correct to think of yourself negatively. You are justifying your negative thinking and feelings of low self esteem. How you do this is by acting in a way that will make the other person act the way you expect.
Maybe you use negative body language or stutter or get confused or maybe you panic or blush. Your mind is actually working against you. all because your brain is trying to prove to you that your feelings of insecurity are correct.
You don't have to go through this forever. You can turn this around and start to build your confidence as you do so. How?
First, learn to slow down and breath evenly and relax.
Second, very important this one. No matter how you feel smile.
Third, say something positive to yourself and imagine you look confident.
These steps can help you to start to expect the opposite, a positive reaction. Look for a friendly smile from the other person and note that a question means the other person is interested in what you have to say.
Just go from there and build up the conversation. Try to talk but not too much, listen also. Nervous people often forget to listen and then get embarrassed when they forget what the other person said or they make an error.
Good luck you're a step closer to building your self esteem.
Did you find these tips about building self esteem useful? You can learn a lot more here:
Self Confidence Tips
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