What excuses do you use?

When things get tough in your life what do you do?

Do you decide how best to take action and face the difficulties that lie in front of you or do you make excuses?

Excuses are the false reasons we give ourselves to avoid the danger we think is ahead. Is your head full of reasons why you can't do what you want to? Why your dreams are impossible?

I've just written a new article and added it to my site that will show you exactly how you use these false excuses and I'll show you what to do to overcome them. If you can break free of these excuses you create for yourself then you'll be on the way to finding freedom and happiness in your life. It will be a real awakening for you.

If you suffer from these limiting excuses in your head that sabotage your every step and decision then please go now and check out this new page:

Excuses - what is behind them?

A new view of yourself...

This week my son bought something amazing. It was a wide angle camera called GoPro and films your sporting activities. Most people use them for extreme sports to take film from incredible angles. I enjoy windsurfing and so we attached the camera to the boom of our windsurf sail and after we got home we checked the film....

Amazing! But what has this got to do with self help I hear you ask..?

Life is, in my opinion, an extreme sport and we usually have a very fixed view of it. We see everything from the same view and that view is biassed. We do not see the truth and we do not see exactly what others see.

Like the camera I mentioned above the shots from the camera are like an entirely different world. We don't see how amazing it is what we are doing when we get into action. When you film it like this you see there is so much more to "reality" than what we normally see. Your ability to walk, run and navigate your world is unbelievable. The world is incredible, yet we don't notice the details.

The message here is that you should take a different view of yourself and understand that you are so much more amazing than you think you are. The reality you believe in is not a true picture of the world, it is so much richer and more amazing than you know.

Open your eyes to the wonder of life and to your abilities today!

To read more about how you view yourself and your world check this page:

http://www.more-selfesteem.com/selfimage.htm  

Questions answered

This week I updated a page on my website where I am answering common questions I receive from readers about self esteem issues. Some of the points raised in emails occur again and again so I wanted to put online some of my thoughts addressing problems with self confidence and self improvement.

The page is here so please go take a look at some of my answers.

Some of the most important questions I've answered are:

What do I need to work on if I feel confident about myself, but others don't?

I get tensed up with every small thing when people are watching me. This thing is eating me up and I will be glad if you help me deal with it.

How can I stay in a long lasting relationship?

Some pretty important questions there! I'm sure you'll benefit from some of my answers so go take a look and see if they help you.

My Two New Articles This Week

This week I have written two new articles. I am trying to be a bit more organized now and concentrate on writing about my two favorite subjects depression and self esteem.

The first article I wrote this week was a complete rewrite of a page on my site More-SelfEsteem.com. Originally this page was a guest article but now it is my own totally original work. I have written about something that affects us all and is one of the biggest reasons why we do not get everything we want from life.

Check out my first article here:

The Problem of Self Sabotage

The second article, (success! I wrote two articles this week! :)), is about a serious question which is:

"Why isn't Depression taken seriously?" I have written about why I think it is and what you can do about it if you suffer from depression. Read this article now

This second article and the question it asks has stirred up quite a bit of discussion already on Google plus -a very interesting one that seems to illustrate the problems that exist in how different people see and react to someone saying "I am depressed".

I hope you enjoy my new aticles, if so please leave a comment for me and do remember to share my pages when you read them - thanks,

Karl

My Favourite Online Self Help Writers - featured: Noch Noch

I am starting a short series of posts where I will tell you about my favourite self help writers who regularly post online content about subjects that interest me in self help. I hope this will also help you too by introducing you to writers who get you thinking.

The subjects these writers write about cover subjects like depression, self esteem and self confidence as well as other related self help topics. Maybe some of them may be new to you and may open you up to new ideas about how to improve your life? I hope so!

So who are my favourite online self help writers?

The first one to be featured is:

Noch Noch. That's her in the picture. Read why I enjoy Noch Noch's writing

I personally love to be inspired and some of the best writers are not necessarily the famous ones you see in the bookstores but those real people who have experienced what life has thrown at them and come out the other side to tell their story.

That's what I am focusing on here, writers who have felt what you are feeling or those who really know what they are talking about and offer different points of view for you to consider.

These are writers who have struck a chord with me and stopped me for a minute or two and made me think about problems I face and see in others.

These writers have one thing in common - they can help you move forward in your life by examining common subjects from interesting angles.

Read about my favourite self help writers

Why do those who Love us the most also hurt us?

"Love my life but sometimes still can't handle it when the people you love the most hurt you."

This was a great question I got this week and I'll attempt to answer it for you here.

First of all those who we are closest too know us the best and therefore they do have a lot of power over you. As you love someone your trust in them grows and anything they say or do which threatens this trust hurts.

Why do those close to you have so much power to hurt you? It's kind of obvious really if you think about it. Whatever they say really makes an impact on you because you value their thoughts and words so highly. So if two people criticized you and one was a loved one and the other a complete stranger, which comments would hurt you most?

You can feel huge pressure to live up to a loved one's expectations of you and will try that much harder to be the person you believe they want you to be. Be aware though that even with loved ones the best way to live is to be true to who and what you are and not try to be someone else, not even the person who your loved ones believe you to be. Who are you really?

If you get into this trap and feel like you have let a loved one down in some way, perhaps you feel your behaviour or what you have said has disappointed them then that hurts a lot too.

The answer to this problem is to have as honest and open a relationship as possible with any loved one and explain how you feel. If you do this you avoid trying to be something different from what you are.

Keeping secrets from loved ones is never a good idea and remember that if you are open and honest you will get that back in return.

You must always be prepared to forgive others and it is often even harder to forgive loved ones because of the extra hurt you feel. As emotions are stronger in closer relationships then the power of forgiveness needs to be stronger too and the rewards will be greater trust, love and a happier and less hurtful relationship.

Love to know what you think so leave a comment below.

Losing a Loved One Hurts But...

This week has been hard on me and our family as we have lost the oldest member, our dear grandmother who at 93 years old passed away a few days ago. It's been very sad for sure but what has got me through is one important thought.

I wanted to post this in case you have faced such a loss and I hope this thought can help you too.

Feeling sad and depressed about the death of a loved one is actually quite selfish because we are thinking about ourselves and the fact that we will not see them anymore. The correct way to think about this is I believe to take the opportunity to remember all the good things that the person who has died said when they were alive. What do you remember most? What are the great things you most remember about him/ her?

When you think like that you can be thankful for the time you spent together and take this as an opportunity to remember that our time on this earth is limited and ask yourself this important question:

What will people most remember about you after you are gone?

This is something to think about and act upon surely. All good things come to an end. Their ending makes us appreciate them even more. Being reminded of this should inspire us to make the most of our time here and that the most important thing is how you affect others lives.

Thanks for reading this today and please add your comment below and tell me what you think and what you have experienced.

Have a great and inspired day!