Losing a Loved One Hurts But...

This week has been hard on me and our family as we have lost the oldest member, our dear grandmother who at 93 years old passed away a few days ago. It's been very sad for sure but what has got me through is one important thought.

I wanted to post this in case you have faced such a loss and I hope this thought can help you too.

Feeling sad and depressed about the death of a loved one is actually quite selfish because we are thinking about ourselves and the fact that we will not see them anymore. The correct way to think about this is I believe to take the opportunity to remember all the good things that the person who has died said when they were alive. What do you remember most? What are the great things you most remember about him/ her?

When you think like that you can be thankful for the time you spent together and take this as an opportunity to remember that our time on this earth is limited and ask yourself this important question:

What will people most remember about you after you are gone?

This is something to think about and act upon surely. All good things come to an end. Their ending makes us appreciate them even more. Being reminded of this should inspire us to make the most of our time here and that the most important thing is how you affect others lives.

Thanks for reading this today and please add your comment below and tell me what you think and what you have experienced.

Have a great and inspired day!

What not to say to someone who is depressed

Depression is quite a serious business and those who haven't suffered can only imagine what the sufferer goes through.  If you have been reading my blog you will have seen that I believe there are many many things you can do to help yourself but one thing that really does not help is listening, even for a second, to the stupid comments that others make when they learn that you are depressed.

If you've ever been depressed you know what it feels like.  The stupid sentences that people give you that shows they don't understand what it means to be depressed and they don't realize the seriousness of it. 

I just read a really really interesting article and I wanted to share it with you.  It talks about all these kind of things that make you mad if you're depressed.  It just shows that others don't understand at all and what's more they are not prepared to even try.

The article is called 11 things you should never say to someone with depression.

Please let me know what you think about the article and leave your comments below. 

Do this one thing to find energy, clarity and refresh your mind

Sometimes life just gets too much, don't you agree? Do you ever feel that you can't make clear decisions because your brain is tired and confused?

You need to take care of yourself when life challenges you. One thing I always find helpful is the power of silence.

I experienced it only a few times but it is really something that makes a big difference.

It is often difficult to find a quiet place - if you are lucky enough to live near an open space such as a forest or mountain or the countryside away from the city then take advantage of the silence. Sometimes we need to shut our brains down, breath gently and stop thinking. Noise prevents you from doing this.

So go somewhere silent. Not just quiet, but silent if you can. The silence will rest you. Certain sounds in nature are also restful so birds or water are not a problem but if you can find absolute silence it will work its magic on you. Close your eyes and stop thinking, relax for a while and rest.

If you do this it will bring you energy and clarity and help you become stronger.

Look after yourself and refresh your mind and this will help you in your life.

Discover how self hypnosis audio will enable you to be confident, positive and able to achieve the success you deserve.

What is Self esteem exactly?

As part of running my various website about self esteem and depression I get many questions daily. It is amazing how I am able to help people from all over the world with just a few words in an email which I can write quickly. I really feel I am contributing and doing something positive.

Anyway, here's today's question:

"What is self esteem really?"

And here is my brief answer, please add your answer below in the comments section, love to hear how you would define self esteem.

Self esteem is:

"the value you put on yourself as a person. It is how you see yourself, do you have a lot of positive ideas about who you are and what you can offer to the world or do you think of yourself negatively? Low self esteem is when you don't like who you are and think you are worthless or a failure so high self esteem would be believing the opposite and feeling confident about YOU."

You can also check the following page for more about the meaning and importance of self esteem:

http://www.more-selfesteem.com/whatisselfesteem.htm

Have a great day!

A Fantastic Self Improvement Tool...

The power inside is just amazing, did you realize that?

Of all the tools for self improvement I've checked out over the years and recommended I keep coming back to one of the most powerful of all. It uses the power of your subconscious mind to help you to heal yourself.

Think of any problem or challenge you face, it might be something that scares you or something you've been avoiding. It might be something you've wanted to overcome for years but haven't managed it yet. This is a technique that works because you have the ability to heal yourself and change the way you think.

What is this self improvement tool?

It's called self hypnosis. Don't be put off by hypnosis. What it does is relaxes you and your subconscious receives messages that will help you confront your problems in a more positive and successful way.

You can read more about this powerful resource and get a free course which will teach you how to use this. Just visit my page about self hypnosis audio and learn why this is so successful.

Do this and take action to change your life

We often here these days about the difficulties of modern life and how we don' have time to stop and think about where we are going.

Does this sound like you?

When a company has a problem, a group of people sit down and reflect on what is happening and a discussion of tactics follows. What is the best course of action?

Do you sometimes find yourself lost and not knowing what to do or what has gone wrong? Do you wonder what action to take?

You need to take some time out. Perhaps a short break away from the stresses of work or study to reflect.

If you spent one day a week when you sat down and gave yourself some time to think about where you are and where you are going, don't you think that would make a difference?

If you think life is passing you by, then stop a moment and relax. think about what you want and how to get it, even if it's just for five minutes each day.

Set aside some time today to ask yourself these questions:

"Where do you want to go in life?"
"How will you get there?"
"What steps can you take now to move closer to your wishes?"

I wish you luck and would like to know how you find this activity.

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An interesting excerise for you...

Today I want to give you a few exercises to do which will help improve your self esteem and mindset.

Let's get straight to it!

Get a pen and some paper:

Ready?

First, write out all the limiting, negative beliefs you have about yourself.
Hint: start with I can't, I don't, I am too.., I don't have...etc. (You are really trying to get reasons why have low self esteem)

Second, write out compelling reasons why you must have more self esteem and self confidence. What would that mean to you? How would your life change? Try to get 100 reasons if you can.

Third, list 100 ways to boost your self esteem. What can you do to build your esteem and confidence?

Fourth, make a list of goals of things you want to achieve or steps you need to take and include deadlines to achieve them.

This exercise may take some time but it will be time well spent. It will help you by changing from a negative mindset focused on failure to a mindset determined to succeed.

If you find the above useful then you will certainly benefit from my e-book Self Esteem Secrets, or you can check out my website and find about how Life Coaching can help you.


Take care,
Karl Perera