While I love helping people and am ready to do so whenever someone wants my help, some people make it so difficult!
I get many requests for help with self esteem issues. I really enjoy asking difficult questions that get clients to really think about their "problem" or situation. Many problems are not even problems at all but confusions in the mind. Life coaching I believe is all about assisting and guiding the client to open their eyes and hearts to what is really happening.
When a client suddenly uncovers the reason behind a belief or behaviour their eyes are truly opened.
Yes, helping others is one of the most satisfying things in my life. It surpises me often, though, how much we neglect helping ourselves. It is not selfish to help yourself but caring. You matter as well.
I am sad how often I talk to someone who wants to break free of an old way of living to live a new life filled with happiness yet they do not see how badly they treat themselves.
My message to you today is simple...
Give yourself a break, be nice to YOU for a change.
You matter.
If you want to find out how Life Coaching can help you then please contact me and I'll arrange a time with you for a FREE consultation.
Have a great day!
Please check out my websites:
More Self Esteem
Depression Help
Karl Perera Life Coach
Friday, 2 December 2011
Monday, 21 November 2011
Why is motivation so important?
if you know what motivates you, you can change your life
so you do those things and this will give you more joy. The important thing is
that if you have joy you will do great things with your life and will not fail
when things get difficult. If you do what makes you happy, whatever that is, it
means you will work hard on it and do your best. If you do what doesn’t
motivate you then this is a disaster, you will not work hard on it, your heart
will not be in it and you will not succeed.
What motivates you is a key question and when you find it
you can move forward. When I spoke to you and tried to help you, you seem
without motivation and felt trapped. Finding motivation and strength within you
will help you decide to get up, stop feeling sorry for yourself, and act in a
way that will help you get yourself to a better place.
That better place is where you can be happier and more
fulfilled, where you can help others be happier too. Where you can be what you
are supposed to be - what God wants is that you are happy and doing what you
are good at. Depression holds you back and that is a shame.
If you ever suffer from depression then take a look at this page about treating depression
Perfectionism
Last week I sent out a message to my subscribers all about perfectionism. I said the following:
"Do you constantly tell yourself you could have done this better or said that better?"
"Do you spend time worrying how others will respond to you?"
"And when you have a bad day do you go over and over what happened and wish that you had done things differently?"
I got quite a few replies saying there is nothing wrong with trying to improve and of course there isn't. Improvement is progress and looking at how you can have done things better is a good idea if you want to learn from the problems and challenges of life. However, the problem of perfectionism is that you want to improve and even when you do you drive yourself harder.
Perfectionism is a problem that never goes away because you can never be perfect.
Seeking perfectionism is the road to unhappiness and you need to accept that you are not perfect. No one on this planet is. Be happy to do your best and yes learn from it. Try your best always and take setbacks as opportunities to learn and improve yourself. Don't use setbacks to kick yourself and don't be discouraged because setbacks are a natural part of self growth.
I send out inspirational messages each week. To get them sign up for my inspirational self help newsletter and get a FREE CHAPTER of my ebook "Self esteem Secrets"
"Do you constantly tell yourself you could have done this better or said that better?"
"Do you spend time worrying how others will respond to you?"
"And when you have a bad day do you go over and over what happened and wish that you had done things differently?"
I got quite a few replies saying there is nothing wrong with trying to improve and of course there isn't. Improvement is progress and looking at how you can have done things better is a good idea if you want to learn from the problems and challenges of life. However, the problem of perfectionism is that you want to improve and even when you do you drive yourself harder.
Perfectionism is a problem that never goes away because you can never be perfect.
Seeking perfectionism is the road to unhappiness and you need to accept that you are not perfect. No one on this planet is. Be happy to do your best and yes learn from it. Try your best always and take setbacks as opportunities to learn and improve yourself. Don't use setbacks to kick yourself and don't be discouraged because setbacks are a natural part of self growth.
I send out inspirational messages each week. To get them sign up for my inspirational self help newsletter and get a FREE CHAPTER of my ebook "Self esteem Secrets"
Thursday, 27 October 2011
Do you lack motivation?
This week I'd like to talk about how important motivation is.
With motivation you will face challenges and won't give up easily. With motivation you won't worry so much about what others say to you or their criticisms. Without strong motivation, though, you won't have the will or the strength to follow through.
I've seen that many people imagine all kinds of things they'd like to dow ith their lives. They tell me I want to be more this or I want to do more that or they say I need to change how I do this but then what happens?
Nothing changes. Why?
Because they lack motivation.
It's like setting sail on a long voyage in a boat that has holes in it, you won't get far before you'll have to either turn around or sink.
So here's my question...
What will motivate you to make positive changes in your life?
Think about it.
What motivates you? What is important enough to you to make you determined enough to carry on even if you experience difficulties?
Motivation is the key driving force you need to face the setbacks that always come up. If you can find your motivation and reasons for doing something then success becomes a real possibility.
QUOTES - MOTIVATION
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I'd like to recommend you visit this motivating page:
Words of Inspiration and Motivation
With motivation you will face challenges and won't give up easily. With motivation you won't worry so much about what others say to you or their criticisms. Without strong motivation, though, you won't have the will or the strength to follow through.
I've seen that many people imagine all kinds of things they'd like to dow ith their lives. They tell me I want to be more this or I want to do more that or they say I need to change how I do this but then what happens?
Nothing changes. Why?
Because they lack motivation.
It's like setting sail on a long voyage in a boat that has holes in it, you won't get far before you'll have to either turn around or sink.
So here's my question...
What will motivate you to make positive changes in your life?
Think about it.
What motivates you? What is important enough to you to make you determined enough to carry on even if you experience difficulties?
Motivation is the key driving force you need to face the setbacks that always come up. If you can find your motivation and reasons for doing something then success becomes a real possibility.
QUOTES - MOTIVATION
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Dream big and dare to fail. Norman Vaughan
I couldn't wait for success... so I went ahead without it. Johnathan Winters
I'd like to recommend you visit this motivating page:
Words of Inspiration and Motivation
Thursday, 20 October 2011
A Formula for Success..
Today I'd like to give you a little motivation...
Let me ask you "Do you know a formula for success?"
Would you like to know THE secret of success, however you define that?
Well here it is - The Secrets to Success is:
FOCUS + ACTION + PERSISTENCE
Let's look at each of these in turn.
First, you need to focus on what you want. Really focus and that means making a clear picture in your mind, hearing and feeling whatever it is that you are aiming for. Experience in your imagination as if you have what you want.
Second, time to take action. Just thinking about it doesn't make it happen, whatever they tell you in "The Secret". You need to plan how you will take steps to move closer to your goal. Success comes from making it happen.
Third, persistence. Never give up trying. If you are not happy with how you are progressing try a different route. There are always alternative ways to achieve any goal. You always have other choices. Never give up. Success is always preceded with what some see as failure and others see as temporary setbacks. Don't let this stop you, keep moving forward.
That's it. You WILL be successful if you follow this formula.
A big problem that may be holding you back from achieving what you want in life could be low self esteem. Check out my website More Self Esteem for help building your self esteem and confidence.
Let me ask you "Do you know a formula for success?"
Would you like to know THE secret of success, however you define that?
Well here it is - The Secrets to Success is:
FOCUS + ACTION + PERSISTENCE
Let's look at each of these in turn.
First, you need to focus on what you want. Really focus and that means making a clear picture in your mind, hearing and feeling whatever it is that you are aiming for. Experience in your imagination as if you have what you want.
Second, time to take action. Just thinking about it doesn't make it happen, whatever they tell you in "The Secret". You need to plan how you will take steps to move closer to your goal. Success comes from making it happen.
Third, persistence. Never give up trying. If you are not happy with how you are progressing try a different route. There are always alternative ways to achieve any goal. You always have other choices. Never give up. Success is always preceded with what some see as failure and others see as temporary setbacks. Don't let this stop you, keep moving forward.
That's it. You WILL be successful if you follow this formula.
A big problem that may be holding you back from achieving what you want in life could be low self esteem. Check out my website More Self Esteem for help building your self esteem and confidence.
Friday, 14 October 2011
Do Your Beliefs Help You?
Are you happy with your life right now?
If not, what can you do about it?
Today I'd like to ask you to examine your beliefs. Now beware...Some of these beliefs may be hidden deep within your brain so you may have to ask searching questions and think carefully to find an answer.
Many people come to me for Coaching and need help with self esteem or confidence issues. They want steps that they can follow to build self esteem or become more confident. In Life Coaching we know that the most powerful changes that we can help someone make come from questioning beliefs.
What are you beliefs?
Ask yourself "What do I believe about myself?"
"What do I believe I can do well?"
"What do I believe I don't do well?"
"How do I believe others see me?"
"What do I believe is possible in my life?"
Self esteem is so important but before you try to boost yours ask yourself:
"What do I believe I deserve?"
When you ask these kinds of questions you must be very honest. You can easily fool yourself.
When you have discovered what your main beliefs are then you need to figure out which beliefs help you and which don't.
Once you know which beliefs limit you and hold you back preventing you from being happy or achieving your goals then you can do something about it.
The next step will be to replace those limiting beliefs by ones that help you move closer to living the life you want.
I hope you have enjoyed this short post, there is more coming soon.
If you'd like one to one help from me, try a free 50 minute Life Coaching session - leave a comment below with your email or contact me
If not, what can you do about it?
Today I'd like to ask you to examine your beliefs. Now beware...Some of these beliefs may be hidden deep within your brain so you may have to ask searching questions and think carefully to find an answer.
Many people come to me for Coaching and need help with self esteem or confidence issues. They want steps that they can follow to build self esteem or become more confident. In Life Coaching we know that the most powerful changes that we can help someone make come from questioning beliefs.
What are you beliefs?
Ask yourself "What do I believe about myself?"
"What do I believe I can do well?"
"What do I believe I don't do well?"
"How do I believe others see me?"
"What do I believe is possible in my life?"
Self esteem is so important but before you try to boost yours ask yourself:
"What do I believe I deserve?"
When you ask these kinds of questions you must be very honest. You can easily fool yourself.
When you have discovered what your main beliefs are then you need to figure out which beliefs help you and which don't.
Once you know which beliefs limit you and hold you back preventing you from being happy or achieving your goals then you can do something about it.
The next step will be to replace those limiting beliefs by ones that help you move closer to living the life you want.
I hope you have enjoyed this short post, there is more coming soon.
If you'd like one to one help from me, try a free 50 minute Life Coaching session - leave a comment below with your email or contact me
Saturday, 9 July 2011
My new attempt to help you...
Finally after a lot of planning I have taken another huge step in helping others. Last week I opened my new Life Coaching program and got a great response from my subscribers.
I am enjoying the contact it gives me with those who want to improve their lives and I am now in demand!
If you are interested in my Life Coaching Program and want to try a FREE 50 minute session to see if it's for you then just let me know when you're available and we'll sort out a time, but hurry because this is a limited offer.
Contact me now
I am enjoying the contact it gives me with those who want to improve their lives and I am now in demand!
If you are interested in my Life Coaching Program and want to try a FREE 50 minute session to see if it's for you then just let me know when you're available and we'll sort out a time, but hurry because this is a limited offer.
Contact me now
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