Plans for the New Year...

Before I hop on a plane from Turkey to Austria (where I'll be spending Christmas and the New Year) I would like to share with you what I plan for the next year.

Now:

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Coming soon:

I have created a physical book version of "Self Esteem Secrets" and will soon put it on Amazon.com.

My personal message to you...

2011 is just round the corner and so I thought I would send you a
personal message and say a big thank you for visiting my website,
signing up and reading the emails I send each week.

How has this year been for you? I hope it's been a year of
improvement and that you've experienced the following:

- friendship. With 6 billion people on the face of this earth all
you need is ONE close friend. It is my wish that you are lucky
enough to possess the thing more precious than gold itself - true
friendship

- joy. Now everyone, including myself, faces unhappiness at times
but I really hope you've experienced moments of joy. Treasure
those moments and re-live them when things get difficult.

- satisfaction. That you have succeeded or achieved something
worthwhile. One of the best things you could achieve today is to
put a smile on someone's face..:)

- hope. I have a hope that the world will be a better place, it
doesn't seem like reality but I can't give up hoping. You
shouldn't either. There is always hope, no matter what others
tell you. If you truly believe in something don't give up until
you get it.

- enlightenment. It could come from anywhere. Inspiration.
Learning. Read and look to discover the truth in the world around
you. Don't just believe everything you see and hear on the TV.

- peace. A very valuable emotion. Inner peace is truly what we
all need. I hope that sometime during the last year you
experienced the stillness and quiet and felt true peace in your
heart, even if just for a few moments.

- love. Did you love someone or something this year? Did that
love bring you some happiness. I really hope it did. You deserve
love and keep telling yourself that. Go after what you love.

- awe. The world is an amazing place. I truly hope that there
were times that you saw or experienced something that took your
breath away. The incredible beauty and power of this world and
the natural things within it constantly remind me that my being
here is more than chance and is a miracle.

I hope this last year was filled with feelings and emotions that
remind us what a wonderful thing it is to be alive. Even if there
was also suffering or pain, then I pray you learn to focus on
those great moments and find motivation in the good.

My personal message to you is my sincere wish that this Christmas
will bring you peace and joy that will spread into the year
ahead. I hope to continue to try to inspire you each week and
hope that in some small way I can help you build your self esteem
and find the real you inside.

Happy New Year...

My best wishes to you,

Take care,
Karl Perera

Author of "Self Esteem Secrets"

It's common to feel down from time to time, but it's less common
to suffer feelings of despair and emptiness that won't go away,
even if you change your circumstances. Depression is more than
just a case of the blues. It's a low feeling that makes it hard
to enjoy life or even to function on a day to day basis. When
friends and hobbies are no longer interesting, you feel exhausted
on a regular basis, and it's hard to get through your day, you
may be suffering from the signs of depression. Let's take a
closer look at them today.

Learning about the signs of depression and what you can do about
them is the first step to overcoming your problem.

Find out how you can eliminate your depression permanently just
like I did:

Get Free of Depression
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Depression may make you feel extremely sad [[firstname]], or just
listless and numb. It takes over your life, makes it hard to have
fun, sleep, eat, study, or do just about anything. Intense,
unrelenting feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness and other
negative emotions are extremely common. These are just some of
the signs of depression.


When you're depressed, your sleep will be disrupted. Some people
can't sleep, while others sleep all the time. Easy tasks become
hard and concentration becomes more difficult. You may feel
helpless or without hope, and unable to control your negative
thoughts. Food is affected by depression, as well. Some people
lose their appetites, while others distract themselves with food
or feel hungry frequently. Irritability and short temperedness
are common, and you may think your life's not worth living. You
could feel either keyed up and agitated or sluggish and listless.


Depression is a major risk for suicide, but just because you're
depressed doesn't mean that you are suicidal. The two things are
connected, but not the same condition. If you've experienced
suicidal thoughts or impulses, it's important to get help of some
kind, but it can be extremely hard. Make sure that people take
you seriously, even though it's difficult to talk about openly.
Remember that seeking treatment doesn't mean you're weak, and it
doesn't mean you have to be medicated or institutionalized. There
are lots of ways to help get over the symptoms of depression that
don't require drugs.

The solution I recommend, Depression Free Method offers more
information on all the symptoms associated. Many doctors won't
hesitate to put you under ineffective drugs that make you feel
dazed most of the time. These drugs work temporarily but rarely
provides a permanent solution.

Instead of waiting for your doctor to put together a puzzle that
is rarely solved, there are many ways you can grab the bull by
the horns and learn about this mental condition yourself. By
trying some of the suggestions in the Depression Free Method, you
can heal yourself fast and permanently!

Find out exactly what I’m talking about:
Get Free of Depression
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To Your Good Health
Karl Perera

Get Free of Depression

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I'm really interested to know what YOU think about my newly re-designed site.

I've tried to make my Depression helper website better. I mean more personal, and easier to look through. Can you take a look and tell me what you think?

New Depression Help Site

Two quick questions:

1. Like the design? Yes/no? Any suggestions or comments?
2. Should I keep my picture at the top or take it away?

If you comment below I'd really be grateful because this will help me to improve the site so more people can benefit from it.

Thank you

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The Way to Program yourself for Success...

Have you ever heard about how hypnotists can make people do things like quit smoking or feel less pain? From what I’ve read, the way it works is the hypnotist puts a suggestive message in your subconscious. I’ve never tried it before personally, but they say when you wake up it feels like there’s a voice in the back of your head that encourages you or discourages you do to do a particular activity.

A more technical term for this is “subliminal programming”. It means exactly what it sounds like – programming the brain on a subconscious level. Subliminal programming is widely used today not just in hypnotism, but in self-empowerment and goal-setting. There are many gurus and workshops around today that teach people how to do this. Has anyone every tried this? Does it really work?

The thing with those workshops is they’re usually pretty expensive. If you’re a little skeptical about the whole thing, you might want to try it out first at home. There are software packages now that can teach you the same techniques without a live instructor.

One piece of software available is Sculptor 3 made by AffirmWare. This software program is supposedly like having Dr. Phil in your house. It’s your very own personal self-empowerment coach that focuses on affirmations, subliminal programming, visualizations and goal-setting.

The concept is basically like this – your present reality is something that you project from your own thinking. So if you’re a positive thinker, they you will see the world as positive and always see opportunities. If you’re a negative thinker, then you tend to always see things in terms of shortcoming and barriers. Now, what if there was a way to control your thinking? Would that automatically result in a change in your environment?

AffirmWare’s Sculptor 3 says yes, you can change your thinking by constantly bombarding yourself with positive affirmations. Actually, I’ve read that some athletes practice visualization techniques to fine-tune their skills. Sculptor 3 does the same thing, helping you visualize your goals and build confidence to achieve those goals.

Sculptor 3 has an interesting system where you have to finish sentences after your chosen affirmation. As you complete your sentences, your mind usually tries to create opposing thoughts to negate your affirmations. But with Sculptor 3 to back you up, you can start practicing how to counter-attack those bad thoughts with more good thoughts. It is this skill, learning how to break through your personal barriers that Sculptor 3 is all about.

In addition to the software you get some other free stuff. You get a subliminal computer program that flashes pre-selected or custom-made subliminal messages on your computer. You get screensavers, a free e-book called “It Works”, “The Science of Getting Rich” mp3s, and 26 health reports.

In conclusion, if you’re interested in trying out subliminal programming, you can try Sculptor 3 first on your computer. A lot of people swear by it, saying that it helps them stay focused on their goals and feel positive. The software is pretty easy to use, and you get lots of freebies. 

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Self Esteem Help in your Pocket...

I'm so excited because this week I became an author at AMAZON!

How did I manage that? Well, I have been selling my e-book "Self Esteem Secrets" from my website over the last year and decided to make my book available on the Kindle.

The Kindle if you've never seen it is a hand held e-book reader which does some amazing things. Check it out. The price has come down and it would be perfect for Christmas...

Check out Self Esteem Secrets (Kindle version) here.

Just imagine walking around with my best self esteem tips in your pocket. My e-book close at hand.

Not sure if I've shot myself in the foot here but you can get my self esteem boosting e-book much cheaper on the Kindle and read it on the go.

Yes, I'm a self help author on Amazon.com and Amazon.co.uk

So if you want to boost your self esteem then I've got the help that you need in my book. download it today!

Near Life Experiences

Again this week my son Daniel surprised me with the high quality of his writing and guess what? He's only 16 and writes so well.

He asked me to put his latest piece of writing on my website which I did and it has proved to be a knockout!

Read "Near Life Experiences" and let me know what you think by adding a comment on the page and liking it on facebook.

To date more than 40 people have liked the article on Facebook and we've had more than 150 positive comments.

I'm so glad that Daniel is able to write such inspiring material and it certainly fills me with hope for his future. Well done my boy!

So go check that page out right now:
Near Life experiences by Daniel Perera

Self Help Tips Revealed...

Just tried to write a title that will get your interest, did I succeed?

Here are my top self help tips in articles I wrote and put online. Please check these out:

Self Esteem - The Art of Loving Yourself

Taking Care of Yourself - Depression Can Be Beaten!

How to be Happy With Yourself

Self Esteem Means Feeling Good Inside - How to Feel Good Insidese

I hope you enjoy these articles and if you do please share them with others and bookmark them, that would be much appreciated so others can benefit too.

You get what you expect from others...

In this short article I am going to talk about how those who suffer from low self esteem get what they expect from others. That is, they anticipate that someone will react to what they say or do in a certain way and guess what, they do!

This is called self-fulfilling prophecy.

This expectation causes the person to bring about their own self destruction.

After explaining exactly what is going on we'll also look at how anybody who has low self esteem can take corrective action and help improve how they communicate with others in order to boost self esteem and confidence rather than self destruct...

Generally if you suffer from low self esteem then you'll also think negatively of yourself and expect anything you say to others to be received negatively. Guess what, this is exactly what will happen. What you fear will come true. what you're doing is confirming that you are correct to think of yourself negatively. You are justifying your negative thinking and feelings of low self esteem. How you do this is by acting in a way that will make the other person act the way you expect.

Maybe you use negative body language or stutter or get confused or maybe you panic or blush. Your mind is actually working against you. all because your brain is trying to prove to you that your feelings of insecurity are correct.

You don't have to go through this forever. You can turn this around and start to build your confidence as you do so. How?

First, learn to slow down and breath evenly and relax.

Second, very important this one. No matter how you feel smile.

Third, say something positive to yourself and imagine you look confident.

These steps can help you to start to expect the opposite, a positive reaction. Look for a friendly smile from the other person and note that a question means the other person is interested in what you have to say.

Just go from there and build up the conversation. Try to talk but not too much, listen also. Nervous people often forget to listen and then get embarrassed when they forget what the other person said or they make an error.

Good luck you're a step closer to building your self esteem.

Did you find these tips about building self esteem useful? You can learn a lot more here:

Self Confidence Tips

Dealing with depression - new article

I've just written a new article called "Dealing with Depression" so if you're in need of some advice about how to get help for depression or if you're feeling very unhappy right now then go look at my new article:

Dealing with depression

Also here's a great page for you:
Check if you are depressed

Top Ten Depression Tips

I've just written a new article to help you if you feel unhappy or hopeless in your life. I have an awful lot of information on my depression helper site..

The new article gives my "top ten depression tips" - check it out today and get started on helping yourself if you suffer from depression or severe unhappiness.

take a look at the article now:

Top Ten Depression Tips

Change refreshes you as it challenges you

I've just returned from six weeks back home teaching in the UK. What an inspiring break I had!

I call it a break - well it was a working holiday, a chance to touch base. In contrast with Turkey, where I have lived for 16 years England is still where my roots are. My family keeps me in Turkey but old friends, parents and the lovely historic town of Durham brings me back each year.

I've had my dose of Englishness and reminded myself about the things that matter to me most:

Nature, the peace of feeling you belong in a place, your culture, being with people who share your outlook on the world, familiar surroundings and sounds.

Now it's back to adjusting once again to the strange culture in Turkey and all it's oddities.

So how do you benefit from a break or a change in your life? New experiences, time to re-think what you are doing in life and where you are going..new challenges and faces, new friends.

Every now and again be sure to make a change and take a break for your own sanity. It's well worth it and you deserve it.

Change produces anxiety - take a look at this page for more information about anxiety and depression

I'm lucky to be here...are you thankful to be where you are?

For the next month I am in the North of England in Durham. This is the third year I've come here to teach.

It's an inspirational place. The cathedral is a haven of peace and stillness. Time has stood still. My time here is a real break for me from stress and a chance to get back home.

The message here is simple: take some time away and seek out a connection with who you are. Try to go where you can feel your soul and feel at home. Get away from all the stresses you normally face and take some time to think.

I leave you with a couple of pictures I've taken and ask you isn't this place inspirational?

Have a great week...

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Winners and Losers...

Well, you know what?

I'm not going to tell myself I failed, and I'm not going to tell myself I lost - because I didn't. Sure, I may have finished last, but at least I tried, and that's what matters.  Because most people in this world are too afraid to even try. I'm glad to have found the courage in myself to take part in something so big.  I'm proud, even though everything went wrong and nothing went as I wished it to go, to be able to say I was there, competing against the best - showing people the best of my ability. And I believe that no matter what the final outcome was, I have won a very meaningful victory within myself. I pushed myself to compete against the best, to do something which was so scary at first; I gave it my all, and now, I leave this place with my head up high. I am not going to weep because I couldn't go as far as I wanted to today, but instead, I'll celebrate how far I have come over the years.

We must always remember - the greatest rewards in life come from doing the things that scare us the most. It's okay to lose, to stumble and fall at first, because no one was born a winner. We become winners through our ability to get through hard times when everything seems like it's falling apart, and through the ability to say ''I'll do better next time'' and to make it happen. Quitting is never the answer, and it may sound cliché, but the people who quit are the real losers, not the people who try and finish last.

So give everything your best, and do whatever you want to - never back down because you are scared, frightened and afraid to do something. Live life, for every day is precious. Do what makes you happy, and take the opportunities that are right in front of you - don't be frightened by the prospect of failing, because no success comes without prior failures. Try your best always, and remember: the only battle which is lost is one that is never fought.

Written by Daniel Perera


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Instant Be Happy Video

Your day is going to be great after you see this.. To get you in the right mood
I'm sending you a link to an inspiring video , I hope it helps you to get positive..

Click here now to watch the video:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gXI80TqAMQQ

(If you have trouble viewing the video because YouTube is banned in some countries then use a proxy - go to proxy.org or do a search for proxy on Google)

That video will remind you of what is really important in life and I hope it will motivate you and bring a smile to your face. Let me know what you think of the video.

I wish you happiness this week and beyond,

take care,
Karl Perera

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Win-Win with "Self Esteem Secrets"...

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Would you like to help others and help yourself too?

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How to be happy Now!

To get you in the right mood here are a few thoughts about happiness, I hope they help you to get positive..

When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we
look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which
has opened for us.

- there is ALWAYS hope and opportunity no matter what.

Happiness...it lies in the joy of achievement, in the thrill of
creative effort.

Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and
the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by
sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with
patience and equanimity.

Remember that happiness does not happen when you do something it
happens now while you're living. This journey is meant to be
enjoyed and experienced not feared.

To sum up what I am saying: 


"A happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes."

Discover more about how to be happy

Is this a wonderful message or what?

I received this wonderful message this week and I wanted to share
it with you...

"One of the basic insights of Truth is the awareness that things
may happen around you, and things may happen to you, but the only
thing that really counts is what happens within you," (Eric
Butterworth).

Whatever circumstances You encounter, no matter what life throws
at You, you are still in control of your attitude. You can always
choose to respond with forgiveness and love.

Do you know one of my biggest mistakes in life? What made me
unhappy and depressed for years?

I couldn't forgive myself and I couldn't love me. I'm talking
about treating yourself with kindness and giving yourself
encouragement as you would someone you care about.

Please remember this and act upon it this week. The one who is
responsible for your happiness is YOU.

Now, before you go I've got a favor to ask - -

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Why do You Have Such an Awful Life..?

Are you feeling like your life is awful?

Ok, for some people certain problems are making life difficult; nonetheless, your problems can be overcome.

What I would like to talk to you about today is maybe you feel your life is horrible but don't really know why or what to do...maybe you just feel depressed all the time and down on life in general.

Do you know the number 1 reason why most people feel depressed about their life?

It's not about problems...

It's about your thinking and your focus..

"one of the greatest causes of depression is focusing on other people. If your life seems bad then maybe it's because you are thinking too much about other's lives..."

What do I mean?

Well, are you focused on what you want.. or on what others want from you?

Are you working towards goals that make you happy or goals that others have chosen for you?

Are you measuring your life against that of your friends or family or other people?

If you want to feel much less depressed decide whose life you want to live and start creating goals YOU want to achieve...

Start to live by YOUR standards and forget what others tell you you must do..

Stop comparing what others do, where they live and how they live, how much they earn, what job they have and throw that ALL away NOW.

Create your own life and depression will melt as soon as you take steps towards being you.

Create a list of things you want to see, do, be, have, enjoy NOW

Start imagining living a life with those goals reached - how does it feel?

Ignore what others are doing or telling you and listen to the master voice inside and act with your heart for there lies your best.

I wish you a great week...

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What is the first step to not being afraid...?

Fear grabs a hold of everyone. Are you seized by fear? You're certainly not alone...

What's the first and most powerful step towards ending your fear?

...to not being afraid?

-It's knowing how to defend yourself.

Think about that, if you're sure how to defend yourself when fear of any situation hits you then what's to be afraid of?

When the worst happens, you'll know you can handle it and it won't crush you. So ask yourself what do you fear? What situations do you dread? What are you scared of? Then ask how can you defend yourself?

Defending yourself from fear means not running away. It means facing your fears head on and overcoming it.

Equip yourself with powerful weapons against your fear. How?

Acquire knowledge, experience and prepare yourself for the challenge. Probably your best weapon against fear is your attitude and mindset. Belief that you can control your fear enables you to stop it controlling you and ruining your life.

This week don't give in to fear, face it and equip yourself with the weapons you need to defend yourself.

Be strong and good luck!

If you want to equip yourself with the weapons you need *now* then they are contained within my e-book:

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"Self Esteem Secrets" - steps to success

 

Positive thinking Tip #10 - Success is nearer than you think...

"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up." Thomas A. Edison

Sometimes I feel so down and depression comes knocking at my door. Do you have the same problem? Of course you do!

We all suffer from negative thoughts and depression can affect you when you turn your thoughts inward and downward.

At those times you should choose to remind myself of a great truth:

"You are not a failure"

You just haven't succeeded 100% yet.

But hang on a second...maybe you have succeeded 20% or 30 or 40%

Remember also, anything worthwhile is not done in one step but in many small steps.
You cannot give up after these small steps or you'll not take the next one...

Keep going even when you feel like giving up because you are nearer success than you think :)

In most cases success means just a small change - it IS within reach but if you listen to your negative self talk, that dark voice inside you, it will tell you success is impossible.

So my tip for you today is...

Understand that success is closer than you think and that in most cases a small change of attitude is all you need to take action to correct your progress towards your goals and dreams.

Silence the dark voice of despair and negativity inside you and answer it, tell it that you won't listen, you'll SUCCEED!

Take a look at my lastest self esteem newsletter for more info and help get yourself out of the rut your in and begin living life to your full potential.

An amazing tip you can use every morning..

I hope that this week finds you feeling hopeful. I'd like to offer a quick tip here that will help you find more motivation and happiness and make you stronger. So let's get to it...

Do you ever wake up and find yourself down even before you've got up?

Before your day has started you already feel depressed?

If that's true then I have a solution..

I sometimes find my mind working against me in that period before I wake up properly. Negative thoughts beginning to creep up on me and fear and anger are also there not far behind. have you experienced that?

If I get up all gloomy, dreading the day ahead I know that I have a problem even before the day has kicked in.

You cannot face the new day like that. A new day should be exciting and full of possibilities...

Depression is like a seperate character inside you, a real enemy because he talks to you and tells you negative things. In your subconscious and in your drowsy morning state this little monster can be very powerful.

What do I do before I get up so that I am happy and feeling ready for the day? ı have a tip I'd like to offer you next time you feel bad in the early hours.

Calm your breathing and then put your thoughts onto something you love, something that made you happy even if for just a short time. Relax. Now start to think of all the GOOD things in your life. There are lots if you think. Even if your life seems horrible or if depression grips you, you can do this...

Count the things you have already which are good, the people, the places everything. The things that you saw or heard or enjoyed recently. There is a beautiful world out there - what do you find beautiful? Think of that.

Gratitude, being thankful is an awesome thing. It will change your attitude instantly. Spend 10 or 20 minutes doing this before you get up and your mood will be positive.

Let me know if this tip helps you and if you try it...I'd love to hear your thoughts...

Before you go, can I recommend something that I have tried and really believe will help you?

It killed my depression stone dead (though it requires some time to complete). It's a superb program that I've taken and it worked wonders for me!

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Breathtaking Quotes - Awe-inspiring Words...part 1

Just found this great quote:

"Tragedies happen. What are you gonna do, give up? Quit?
No. I realize now that when your heart breaks, you got
to fight like hell to make sure you're still alive.
Because you are. And that pain you feel? That's life.
The confusion and fear? That's there to remind you, that
somewhere out there is something better, and that
something is worth fighting for."

- I really believe that there is no failure unless you give up.
You CAN be successful but only if you are determined...are you
100% sure you want to succeed?

(ps: when I say succeed - I mean do whatever it is you want to
do.)

Success to you may be getting more friends, being able to speak
in a group or giving a presentation. It may be gaining respect
from your family, a great job or becoming financially
independent. Whatever it means to you it is in your power to get
it, all you have to do is be determined and try even when you
fear tries to stop you.

Your self esteem is central to all of this...

But your self esteem and confidence will increase when you start
to challenge your fears and confront the pain that has held you
back. Step out of your comfort zone and do something new,
something positive and when you do that you'll be on the road to
a better you.

Inside you there is someone unique and very special. You may not
even be aware of the person you could be - one thing is for sure,
winners are those who fight against their fears and overcome
them.

Failure is giving up.

I hope this brief email has helped give you a boost. I'll be
sending you more soon...

Take care,

Karl Perera
Author of Self Esteem Secrets E-book:

One Step That is Vital = Tip #9 How to be More Positive

This tip is one of the most important ones of all and it is central to changing the way you think...

Before you can begin to think positively you need to examine what you really want. I mean really.

Most people never understand what they want and what motivates them. Do you?

Ask yourself these questions and spend time writing your answers -

What do you really enjoy doing?

If you could do anything what would you do?

What do you really want to achieve?

What makes you feel good?

Answering these questions honestly and getting to know what motivates you is the most important part of changing your thinking and actions for the better.

Don't let another day pass by without asking yourself these questions and then think about the kind of things that need to be changed to make your life more rewarding and balanced.

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What Everyone Ought to Know about Focus - Positive thinking Tip #8

Focus is extremely important. Ever heard of the law of attraction? What you spend your time thinking about is what you bring into your life...

My tip today is to change your focus from negative to positive. Ever find yourself thinking about your problems or difficulties? Are those thoughts making you worry and causing you pain? Sometimes I find myself thinking about the situation I find myself in and how painful it is. Sometimes when I don't realize it my mind seems to magnify the difficulty and I begin to see problems and not solutions. It begins to look hopeless. This is negative thought going crazy...

You need to stop this cycle but how?

Simple. Focus not on the problems or difficulties, not on the lack but on what is good, what is right and what you enjoy about your life. Is that impossible?

NO!!

Even if your life needs improving and you feel bad you can change that round and look for what is already good and already right rather than concentrate and focus on what is missing.

Remember focusing on the positive no matter how small will do the following for you:

1- make you think more positively
2- give you hope
3 - make you feel happier
4 - make it more likely your life will improve
5 - make you less stressed
6 - attract the things you want

So today stop yourself and check where your focus is and direct your thoughts as a conductor directs the orchestra. You want to start creating a life you love and that comes from within you.

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Here's a quick way to boost your positivity Tip #7

Are you scared of challenges?

You're not alone. Most people worry about facing new or difficult tasks but it doesn't have to be this way. Let me show you why challenges are your best friends.

What is a challenge?

It is something you see as difficult. Many tasks come along that fill people with fear and often it is because you have not done the task before. In this case be happy rather than scared because the challenge is a chance to move forward, an opportunity for you to learn a new skill that will make you a more successful person.

Challenges can build your self esteem because they lift you to a higher place and when you do something beyond what you have achieved before you are growing as a person and this will make you more confident.

Challenges seem scary at first because of the unknown factor or because you are not sure what will happen and this makes you uncomfortable. Each time you overcome a challenge you will grow as a person and as you are able to do more you'll build your positivity.

Challenges are not to be feared but you should be excited to tick them off one by one and then afterwards you should reward yourself.

If you want to be more positive and change your thoughts so they will help you, then challenges are the way and facing them and overcoming your fears will make you a champion.

Good luck!

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Here's how one small change in a sentence can change your thinking - Positive Tip #6

Want to know how you can change your thinking with just one or two words...?

Instead of saying:

"I can't do this."

say:

"How can I do this?"

Do you think successful people say I can't...no they ask themselves how and when you do that your brain starts to work on the answer. When you ask "how" your brain accepts that it is possible and a solution can be found.

You don't always have to work out the how. Sometimes a solution will come from within or out of the blue but one thing is for sure...

If you use can't you are refusing to accept that there is a chance of doing whatever it is that you have thought of and how then will it ever be possible if you can't imagine it so?

Next time a challenge faces you, ask:

HOW can I....?

This works. This is powerful!

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Scared?...then do this. Positive Thinking Tip #5

Are you scared? Does fear cause you to remain trapped or afraid to take the next step?

You are not alone, life is filled with scary challenges and sometimes your head may be filled with thoughts about what might happen...and often that can mean you're thinking about the possibility of failure and that is scary.

So what can you do to overcome the fear that paralyzes you, that stops you from taking any action?

Well if you are worried that something may happen, think about what is the worst that can go wrong for a minute and start to imagine what that would mean for you. What would be the result if your worst fear actually happened? Could you recover from that? What would it take to get things back to normal? Would the disaster you fear actually be the end of you or could you do something to fix it?

Now ask yourself how likely is it that the worst case would happen? Rate this from 1 to 10 where 10 is likely and 1 is unlikely.

What is the best that might happen? And again rate the possibility that all would go well out of 10 where 1 is unlikely and 10 likely.

Is your fear justified? Chances are you may now see that probably things will be OK and even if the worst happens you can survive it. Maybe you're worrying too much about things going wrong...

This exercise is all about perspective.

Do this for your major fear or for a decision or challenge you face now and analyse your fear. ıs it justified?

When you do this you'll see that it is usually worth the effort to go ahead. Success favours the brave after all.

Positive thinking Tip #4 - Visualisation

My fourth tip is so important but first a word of caution:

This is something you need to do EACH DAY and your results will depend on your keeping at this. GOOD NEWS is you only need 5-10 minutes maximum for this exercise.

To make your dreams come true try Visualisation. What is it?

What you do is for only 5 or 10 minutes EACH DAY relax, close your eyes and see yourself living the life of your dreams but imagine how you feel, what you hear and see everything in as much detail as possible...

These two things are very important when visualising:

1- only spend 5 or 10 minutes and then forget it.
2- imagine that everything is already like you want it and imagine what it feels like and how you are behaving and thinking. use as much emotion as possible. For the time when you are visualising imagine everything as if it were real.

Over the last few days I have been watching a truly wonderful DVD called Thoughts Become Things which I recommend you watch too. The idea of visualisation is explained at length as is so many other ideas. What I really like is the way that Mike Dooley helps you to understand the power of your thoughts and how you can use them to help make a positive change in your life and break away from self-defeating negative thinking...

The DVD is available right now from Amazon.com and I advise you to grab a copy. It's a must see!

How to Make your Thoughts Positive and Powerful - Tip#3

It's time for tip number 3 and another powerful way that you can program yourself to think positively...

Have you heard of Affirmations before?

Just in case you haven't here's a quick explanation for you:

Affirmations are positive statements you read out everyday to slowly change your thinking.

How do you use them? This is what I do:

Read out these affirmations and any others you find that help you several times a day.

It's a good idea to put them on the wall or above your workspace. Anywhere that you see them regularly. You can write them in a diary or even put them on your computer.

Here are a few Affirmations to start with:

"I focus myself on positive and good things"
"I like who I am"
"I am a powerful, kind and creative person"
"I feel safe and secure being me"
"I accept the truth inside me"
"I am prosperous"
"I am free to choose my path in life"
"I let anger and frustration go"
"My life is filled with love, direction and joy"

You'll feel better just repeating these and if you keep at it for a few weeks you'll change your whole attitude.

Remember don't give up and say these a few times each day even if you don't feel like it. Try to believe what you read and it will come true.

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Change your thoughts...tip#2

Look out for negative things that you say. Talk is your thoughts made into sound and communicated to others. They become very powerful because you're putting your thoughts out there in the world...

So today try this tip:

If you catch yourself using CAN'T, DON'T WANT, DON'T LIKE, HATE then change these to make positive statements with prefer, would rather,and so on.

For example:

I can't do that - say - I would rather do this
I don't like living here - say - I prefer living there or I would rather live there.
I hate this job! - say - I'd prefer another job

These are small but important changes and make all the difference.

You don't want to keep these negative aspects in your life so make them into positives you want to see rather than negatives that you don't like and this will help to make your thoughts more positive.

The Law of Attraction is something I will explain more about tomorrow.

See you then

Take care,
Karl

Tip #1 - Positive thinking

Today's tip is simple and quick (and all these tips will be).

It is so easy to be negative...TOO easy in fact so here's a way to change your thinking and if you use this you can start to look forward and use your imagination to expand on the possiblilities that exist. This will increase your hope that your life can and WILL improve.

So here it is:

Ask the question "What if...?"

What if ....he agrees?
            ...it works?
            ...it is easier than I think?
            ...I succeed at this?
            ...find an answer?

Ok, got the picture?

Instead of anticipating failure you'll start to imagine what can go right and what that would mean, spend time answering the question "What if ?" in your head and seeing and feeling the positive consequences when things do work out right....

This tip is extremely powerful, start trying this today...

If you find this tip helpful or have another please leave a comment below...

How to be more positive...really - step by step

Ever noticed how some people are always positive and enthusiastic. I know people who seem to get excited about the smallest things and never seem to stop telling jokes and smiling...

If you want to improve your life and what you get out of it you need a positive mindset.

I've learnt this personally because for large parts of my life, (without really stopping to check the effect), I've been negative inside.

Now if you want that positive change in your life you need to seriously work towards programming yourself to be positive in all ways possible...

Over the next few days I'm going to give you step by step help with this. We will look at ways to change how you think and react to the world around you. I am going to give you a tip each day to become more positive...

The point of this positivity though is to help you change your life.

There are three steps you need to follow to change your life for the better:

step one - POSITIVE ATTITUDE AND MINDSET
step two - MAKE A DECISION
step three - TAKE ACTION

So tomorrow I will start with the first step and start the journey towards becoming much more positive.

Here's a quote to get you prepared for what's to come:

"You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you."

- James Allen

Remember to visit my website for more about building your self esteem

Do this every day....

Recently I realised that there is so much noise going on in our day to day lives that we cannot think.

Are you feeling confused or lost? Trying to reconnect with what you want in your life? Instead of trying to work out what it is you want, (not a bad idea but this takes time), try quietening down your mind for 15 minutes every day and this will enable you to connect with the inner you and relax.

If you don't stop and calm down and switch off the noise, the thoughts and all the stress around you then how can you reconnect with yourself?

I think it's very important to switch off your brain for a short while and be still. You'll feel refreshed and relaxed if you do this. I'd really be interested to hear what happens when you try this...

How do you feel afterwards?

Comment below and tell me if this technique helps you and let us know if you feel better as a result..

I know it helps me...

Look inside your heart

Hi many people told me to act according to my head and not my heart. After 46 years of living on this planet what do I think of this advice?

WRONG! WRONG! WRONG!

That's the recipe for unhappiness. For sure.

So if you're confused or feel a bit lost right now..well, that's normal. Life is not easy, is it? But ask your heart what it wants and don't follow your head. Life is not logical and does not follow the ways of logical thinking. Intuition and emotion lead to desire and that leads you to action.

What did Carl Jung say about this?



I think that quote says it all don't you agree?

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Change your thoughts

How important do you think your thoughts are in relation to your success?

You know as every day passes I come to think that mindset is the difference between people. Here's a great quote:

"change your thoughts and you change your world"

Norman Vincent Peale

Read more great inspirational quotes here

Quote for today...

Here's a great quote for you today:

"Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal."

- Henry Ford

What is your goal? Do have something you really want and desire right now?
Are you working towards achieving it and if not, what's stopping you?

It's amazing that when you really go for what you want, nothing can stop you but as soon as you begin to doubt - guess what? You see problems, obstacles in your way.

You can either focus on the goal you want to achieve or on the problems facing you and the obstacles in your path. You cannot do both.

If you want to succeed and achieve your desires in life you need to always have your eyes on your goal.

Read more about goals here

Aspire to be You - Monthly program

Just updated my new membership site "Aspire to be You"...

So far I've got about 40 members who are enjoying full membership at a ridiculously low introductory price of just $4.97 per month.

Here's the monthly program which will build into a complete self help course over the months:


Month 1 - getting started

- Important Definitions - I explain the most important concepts for you.

- Attitude and mindset - some words of warning and help which will set you up for success.

- What is the reality of your problem? -

Month 2 - Goal Setting and Happiness

Plus a FREE e-book "10 ways to be happy"

Month 3 - Public Speaking

Plus a FREE e-book "Prepare for public speaking success"

There's lots more inside and lots more to come.

I'm really excited to tell you about this site because this is the first time I've tried to run a membership site.

At the moment you can still get in and take advantage of the special offer while I develop the site.

Sign up today and you'll get a FREE 30 day trial PLUS my new CD "A More Confident You"

What is happiness?

Hi,

I hope you're happy today and feeling fine but if not can I ask
you:

What is happiness? What would make you happy?

Here's a quick quote:

"Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony."

- Mahatma Gandhi

Being unhappy or depressed means that your life is not reflecting who you are and the values you have. This causes you pain and confusion. To be happy you need to try to live your life more in tune with who you are.

How can you enjoy the journey when you are not sure where you are going?

Imagine being the driver of a car...You need to change course and turn to get to your destination, you may even get lost but if you know where you are going and how to get there you can enjoy the journey.

Finally:

"Life is not about accomplishment; it's all about doing, participating, progressing, growing,learning."
- Mike Hernacki

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Take care,

Karl Perera
Author and owner of Depression-helper.com and More-Selfesteem.com

This is what matters most

Want to offer you a positive thought today...

Are you busy running...trying to achieve something...trying to be something?

Well stop a moment and consider this thought:

"It's not what you do that is important...

it's how you feel about it."


I think this says it all.

Have a great day - let your feelings guide you to what is best for you.

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I decide...

Here are the words to a song I just heard - read the words - they are incredible!

The song is by Lindsay Lohan and you can listen to it at the end (the words and the message are more important than the music). Enjoy it:

"I Decide"

Don't think that you can tell me what to think
I'm the one who knows what's good for me
And I'm stating my independence
Gonna take the road I'm gonna take
And I'm gonna make my own mistakes
It's my life
I decide

I decide how I live
I decide who I love
Choice is mine
And no one gets to make my mind up
I decide
I decide where I go
What I need
Who I know
I'm the one who's runnin' my life
I decide
I decide

Don't think you're ever gonna hold me down
Couldn't do it then can't do it now
I'm kickin' down all the fences
I'm gonna do it all and do too much
And if I mess the whole thing up
It's my ride
I decide

I decide how I live
I decide who I love
Choice is mine
And no one gets to make my mind up
I decide
I decide where I go
Where I sleep
Who I know
I'm the one who's runnin' my life
I decide
I decide

I'm taking my own chances
And I'm finding my own answers
I'm only answering to me
And that's the way it's gonna be
I decide
Oh yeah
I decide
I decide

I decide how I live
I decide who I love
Choice is mine
And no one gets to make my mind up
I decide
I decide where I go
Where I sleep
Who I know
I'm the one who's runnin' my life
I decide
I decide

I decide how I live
I decide who I love
Choice is mine
And no one gets to make my mind up
I decide

The doubts of Today..

I've often said that great quotes can inspire you to make positive changes in your life. Here's a wonderful quote I read today:

"The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be the doubts of today"

- Franklin J. Roosevelt

Isn't that so true? I'd like to ask you a question:

How can you create something good in your life if you are filled with doubts?

It's impossible. So if you want to bring more good things into your life before you do anything else - remove the doubts. Start believing and it will happen.

Doubts are negative thoughts and they bring more negative thoughts. When you focus on reasons for failure you will cause failure. Positive thoughts help you to create a better future but how can you remove your doubts?

This is where you may get stuck. You realize the problem but don't know how to solve it. In the next few days I'll post again with steps you can take to remove your doubts and start believing in the power you have to succeed.

Make sure you revisit this blog for more...

Check out some positive videos here:
http://www.more-selfesteem.com/video.htm

The Natural Approach to Depression

Take a look at this video which talks about a natural approach to depression. Interesting stuff!

Personal Accountability..

Watch this great video. It explains self acceptance and much more..

Some great advice here for you. Self acceptance is definitely the most important first step to changing yourself and becoming a happier person.

Enjoy it...

Do what you enjoy...

"There is no value in doing something you don't enjoy"

One of the best ways you can help yourself to boost your
self esteem is to give yourself more time to do what you
want...

What do you love doing?

Give yourself more time. You are helping the world most when
you love what you do.

One of the most important things you could do right now is
focus on what you want to do with your time and how you can
make more time to do it.

Stop filling your life with duties and responsibilities and
start respecting your own wishes.

There are plenty of people who place demands on your time. Think carefully before you make promises and sacrifice your time. If they truly need you and it is for a good reason then of course help them out. We are not talking about being selfish here.

Realise that you deserve time to yourself, time for you. It's all about valuing yourself and achieving that balance between helping others and helping yourself.

You may need help with this so...

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Exciting News...

I have some exciting news...

I have been working on this and planning this for some time and I can announce that very soon I will be offering a FREE CD called "A More Confident You" to anyone who would like to receive it...

Yes I said FREE!!

The CD is over 60 minutes long and I am going to send it out to whoever wants it - tips, techniques and advice about increasing your self esteem and confidence. Your going to love it...

How can you get it?

I will tell you in the next week or so...be sure to come back here for news as I have it.

You'll increase your confidence
Eliminate your fears
Increase your self esteem
Understand what's holding you back and...

learn what to do to make 2010 your best year yet!

And to all those who get the free CD I am also going to offer something else..

Instant access and a FREE 30 day trial to my new "Aspire to be You" membership site!

I'll post more news in the next couple of days...

EXCITED?

I AM AND YOU SHOULD BE TOO!

Anger Directed Inside You is...

I've just found an exciting video I want to share with you..but first let me ask you this:

Have you ever heard that depression is anger directed inside you?

I really agree with that definition. If anger directed within can hurt you so badly and become so powerful a negative force then why not use that anger to beat depression?

Before I give you that link just think about what depression does to you and how it has affected you and start to get mad at it a little. Ask yourself how much you want to get rid of it.

Also, let me remind you how low self esteem is a big part of depression and you must work on building your self esteem constantly.

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Here's the link to the video I promised you:

Try it and tell me if it helped you...

Watch this depression video now
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I hope you enjoy it,

Until next time,
Don't give in to your depression!

Karl Perera